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currently in the hospital, had vaginoplasty this morning - update & AMA (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Here are some basic facts:

method was penile inversion
I opted for full-depth rather than a vulvoplasty
surgery took 3 hours, though recovery took another hour
I went under general anaesthesia and had to be intubated and put on a ventilator
I'm currently admitted in the hospital and bed bound, discharge is scheduled for Friday
so far pain is between 1 and 3 for me, most of the time it's between a 0 and 1.

Ask me anything!

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[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Either way, I consider this a pretty short timeline, though I really wish I could have had my orchi when I started HRT in 2023, that insurance requirement to wait a year is blatant transphobia.

That is a short timeline! I'm happy that you were able to move this fast!

In visits before the operation I did ask the PA and nurses about what to expect in terms of sensation, function, etc.

This has always been a thing that worries me. I'm mostly concerned with functionality, though obviously we would all like like have all 3 be perfect. I'm glad you were able to find the procedure you were hoping for!

I was shocked to find that I was so extremely happy with the results, and that led to some happy sobbing.

Joy really is the end goal, isn't it?

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

This surgeon seems pretty decent on all three measures, aesthetic seems ideal as well as function and sensitivity.

Here are some photos of the surgeon's work:

NSFW

3 month post-op:

different person, 1 year post-op (this one is shallow-depth / vulvoplasty):

same vulvoplasty person but 6 months post-op:

a different person 4 days post-op:

and yeah, joy is the end-goal I guess, for me it's more like harm reduction driving things than joy, but I'm happily surprised when the joy comes anyway, lol

I have a hard time connecting with my feelings around dysphoria, I've coped really well and part of the way I cope is by dismissing and ignoring my feelings around gender.