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But I have to be at work at 8 AM tomorrow. How do I find the time to take it slow?
That's the real question, isn't it? When our employers demand more of our time than we get to spend with our actual families, the take-it-slow life just isn't a possibility. Unless you're independently wealthy.
IMO "wealthy" is not the threshold one needs to achieve. They key to a sustainable life is a low "burn rate". This is why generational properties were so important and why it is a tragedy that it is so rare amongst working people in the US (for many reasons). That plus public transportation and basic healthcare. The US is designed to turn people into economic slaves by removing the option to work less.
If rent/mortgage, basic healthcare, and car payments were not a requirement, would you be under such pressure to stay in a job that exploits you? That's why many municipalities do not allow multi-family homes because they don't want multiple generations partitioning the big house your grandparents left you in order to fit your parents, your sisters family and your family under one paid off roof. Public transportation? Ha! Get a job to pay for a car, to drive to work, to pay for the car. Basic healthcare? You better not lose that job unless you want to die of disease or drown in medical debt.
When someone leaves you a home for nothing when most of the people around you cannot afford one, that is 'wealth'. If I did not have to worry about rent, healthcare and car payments, that would make me wealthy - because it is the wealthy who do not have these concerns to the same degree as the majority of the population. Generational wealth is also a great way to keep the 'undesirables' out of a community - and has been used so multiple times in the past. It's one of the reasons why people from poor families statistically end up just as, or even more poor than their parents.
I still have a mortgage, but I don’t have car payments and my bills have been steady for years.
I have never been stable by any historically recent metric, yet I can easily survive on $750/mth usd living in the US. Sure, a depressed area, but I can make it work.
I’ve never been stable so I learned to live on very little, and make up for it where I can. I won’t ever have money for travel, but historically nobody did. We are spoiled as fuck to think international vacations are a baseline necessity to call life good.
It’s not easy in today’s world but it is totally doable, if you don’t give a fuck about keeping up with people around you, and focus on what makes your life good.
I've reached a point of just not giving a fuck. I've begun to wonder if that's why I'm getting laid off but if so, then I deserve it but with an asterisk.
I worked 30-40 hours and delivered exceptional work. Quality of which was on par with my peers who easily work 50-60 hours a week. My boss works 80+ hours a week and I just keep asking myself "why give the company so much of your life and it doesn't give a flying fuck about you?"
I'm sorry if you don't see me hustling. I'm going to give you my everything, but within the timebox we've agreed to. Yes, I'll agree to work the occasional overtime for incident management, etc. but I am for sure not going to work 50-60 hours a week regularly.
My life is worth more than the job and I am not going to waste it behind a screen moving numbers around for more time than I need to.
There are jobs.
Im a flight attendant and work 72 hrs a month, my husband is a professor and is in front of a class 60 hrs a month.
(My husband and I certainly both came from privileged backgrounds (say middle class ish) and both got degrees that although our parents didn't pay for they gave us resources - either way I wouldnt say our lifestyle is unobtainable)
Having said all that...in general you're correct. Our case is certainly an outlier. We can't all be flight attendants
Edit: our parents aren't dead yet, but when they do pop off they each have a house we will get a share of (to your point)