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You're a fixer, and very empathetic. That's great, but also dangerous - you'll burn yourself out trying to fix everything. You'll have to accept that you can't fix everything for everybody - in fact by doing so, you'll be creating new problems. Your mental state will tank, because there is no end to life's troubles. There will always be a new issue.
The best way to help is to offer it - and if they ask, cheerfully chip in, but otherwise, deal with your own day to day tasks. You can help without "shouldering" thier problems. When I went through tough times, the people I appreciated the most did simple things like go out to dinner or play video games with me. Very simple.
Other people's problems are not yours, and if you continue having these thoughts, seek a therapist.
Source: have seen many empathetic fixers crash and burn
I just cannot get over seeing people I care about in pain. I don't know how to "get over" it to be a better friend if that makes sense.
I went to one session with a therapist recently and it was like $200 post-insurance for just the one session. No clue how people afford that.