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“IF I’ve offended you, I’m sorry.”
It’s not an apology if you don’t start by agreeing with the other person’s viewpoint.
Instead say: “I can understand why you’re offended. What I didn’t wasn’t acceptable and here’s why: …”
If you don't understand why someone is offended you can't possibly explain why what you did wasn't acceptable.
I'm with you. But may I suggest you shouldn't really be making excuses for something you don't understand.