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How to deal with bigotry? (lemmygrad.ml)
submitted 1 year ago by KrasMazov@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml
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Hey comrades, how do you deal with bigotry irl?

I'm really sick of so many people around me just saying some LGBTphobic, misogynistic or racist shit. It's bad enough seeing it all over social media everyday, but irl it's even worse. And I can't bring myself to confront anyone about it, be it in person or in a voice call. I don't even know how to confront this type of behavior, what to say, what tone to use, which expressions to make. The few times I managed to do it I was either mocked or met with verbal resistance.

It also doesn't help that my city is very right-wing to say the least, it's like no one I know even think about any of this. It's honestly so tiring.

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[–] KrasMazov@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I just say ‘gay is not a curse word’. [...] Simple things like that or ‘don’t talk about women like that’ work wonders most of the time.

That's simple and concise, I'll try stuff like that.

It’s okay to set boundaries even if it’s just for their engagement with you. They’d still have to think about not calling women derogatory slurs when talking to you or around you. And chances are they start to think about it when with other people as well.

You’re probably not going to erase bigotry all by yourself. Some people stay bigoted and will go above and beyond to show their views. But the majority of people, I feel, can learn from someone like you just standing up and setting boundaries in a (mostly) non agressive way.

I never thought of it that way, it gives me a much better perspective of the situation and the impact that standing up to this stuff might cause on people, thanks!