Then they grow up and leave, they don’t need you anymore. I haven’t gotten there yet, and I’m both excited and afraid. But one day, if you love them, and if you prepare them, they will return the favor. They’ll be there when you grow old. They’ll be there to support you, as you were them.

The “kids suck” mentality is true, I agree, kids suck. But they only suck if you have a very narrow view on your and their lives.

[–] pigup@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

This guy reproduces

[–] MrVilliam@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not who you were replying to, but I wanted to voice that I'm in the narrow-minded "kids suck" camp. I'm too selfish to be a great parent, so I've elected to not be a parent at all. I'd be okay, maybe even good at it, but I'm all too aware of the freedom and the financial stability I'd be giving up to be a parent, and for that I know that I'd resent my child for taking that from me even if I consciously tried not to.

I have other additional reasons, but the strongest reason is that I like the ability to take my wife on spontaneous trips to wherever or just shut down and focus on myself. Parents can't do that, at least not whenever they feel like it.

[–] helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

At least you recognize your lifestyle doesn't mesh with having kids.

Just for recognizing that, you're off to a better start than the parents who resent their kids for existing and makes sure the kid knows it every day.

[–] Robin_net@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Kids who have supportive parents will always need their parents even if they leave and are self sufficient. I'm sure your kiddos will still need you for a long time.