For example, I might complain that I got a bad review as an actor. What I need is for people to say "Fuck that critic!" and "That really sucks man." not "Have you tried taking classes to get better?" Sure, that's objectively the correct advice but it isn't what even the most logical human wants to hear when they're upset.

[–] CoolBeance@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Okay this makes sense. I didn't realize that people feel tend to feel better when their pain is understood. Maybe I should give it a try sometime. Thanks for opening up my brain!

[–] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Do men do that? I have the feeling it's exclusively women who do this, but the reasoning behind it could be as valid for women as for men. We're all human after all.

[–] tpyo@lemmy.world 27 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You've never heard a man complain about something?

[–] walkercricket@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Yes but generally, it's to find solution, not just to have someone listen and do nothing else. It's just a bonus I would say if the person listens as well.

[–] Baku@aussie.zone 10 points 1 year ago

I'm a man. Sometimes I just want people to listen. So I guess based on that alone, it can't be exclusively women