Right now there is a loneliness epidemic throughout the world. More and more people aren't entering relationships. Gen Z men are having significant trouble dating while there are some economic factors in the mix. From my own view and experiences combined with what I've read most Gen Z men are lack the social and communication skills to even enter a relationship. This has and in the future will lead to extreme issues. There's already been a marked rise in hostility towards women by young men (think Andrew Tate and his ilk) that's likely born out of this frustration. I would definitely say there's been a rise in gender hostility ever since the pandemic.
Back in the 50s there was arranged marriages. All a person had to do was just show but now that's gone because it was an unequal system and I think society missed its chance to establish something much healthier and better in its wake. Now we have people that are unable to connect with each other. We just toss people blindly into the mess that is human interaction and relationships and no one knows what to do anymore. We could be have the most fulfilling relationships humans have ever had. Think of the amount of people who would of never have entered abusive relationships had there been someone around them that showed them what love exactly is.
The way we teach is so heavily focused on teaching people how to be worker drones that we forget the human part of the person. This is why a lot of people who do extreme well in school and college fare so poorly in relationships and have higher rates of depression. We are the most educated and advanced in human history, we know psychology, we can teach this shit rather than tossing people blindly into the meat grinder.
"But I love Kristy, and nothing will change that". It's not a rational, teachable topic. Which is why we teach contraception instead of abstinence. Tack on teaching financial well-being if you wanna improve odds of healthy relationships.
I mean you won't be able to save absolutely everyone but you'd be amazed how many get into abusive relationships because they don't know any better. Not even just abusive relationships either just relationships were they aren't valued that much.
what do they not know?
Unfortunately, a ton of abusers are really good at getting people trapped in the relationship one way or another before the realization of how abusive they are really sets in. Its less that they think they have to deal with it and more than they can't get out without risking it getting much worse.
First one isnt a rational thing. If youve ever dealt with depression, you can tell someone theyre valuable all you want, theyll just disagree with you. And of course they know abuse exists. These arent matters that need teaching, they need psychiatric or legal help.
Yes I know you can’t just tell them. If you could just tell them, everyone would know it already because we have that message blasting in every direction all day.
It’s a long process to convince someone that these facts are true, which is why it’s worth talking about how to make that happen.