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Right now there is a loneliness epidemic throughout the world. More and more people aren't entering relationships. Gen Z men are having significant trouble dating while there are some economic factors in the mix. From my own view and experiences combined with what I've read most Gen Z men are lack the social and communication skills to even enter a relationship. This has and in the future will lead to extreme issues. There's already been a marked rise in hostility towards women by young men (think Andrew Tate and his ilk) that's likely born out of this frustration. I would definitely say there's been a rise in gender hostility ever since the pandemic.

Back in the 50s there was arranged marriages. All a person had to do was just show but now that's gone because it was an unequal system and I think society missed its chance to establish something much healthier and better in its wake. Now we have people that are unable to connect with each other. We just toss people blindly into the mess that is human interaction and relationships and no one knows what to do anymore. We could be have the most fulfilling relationships humans have ever had. Think of the amount of people who would of never have entered abusive relationships had there been someone around them that showed them what love exactly is.

The way we teach is so heavily focused on teaching people how to be worker drones that we forget the human part of the person. This is why a lot of people who do extreme well in school and college fare so poorly in relationships and have higher rates of depression. We are the most educated and advanced in human history, we know psychology, we can teach this shit rather than tossing people blindly into the meat grinder.

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[–] mojo@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

We do, that's what socializing at school is for.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago

It’s what recess is for, but we decided to just keep cutting that down because it’s hard to measure progress when kids aren’t sitting at desks filling in scantron ovals.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Does anyone else remember school as 13 years of being told not to socialize?

[–] mojo@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

From kindergarten onwards "No talking. Everyone quiet."

[–] calypsopub@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly. My son's school even had "silent lunch" some days. They treated his ADHD by denying recess most of the time. In high school, he was barred from standing next to his best friend in the stands during football games (they both played trumpet in marching band) because they were talking. There is very little opportunity for children to socialize in school, and most of it is reminiscent of Lord of the Flies.

[–] centof@lemm.ee -1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Socializing in school is only really allowed in the ~20% of time not made up of lectures / homework. E.g. Recess/Lunch/In-between classes. The other 80% is largely made up of lectures and homework. Ideally those percentages should be flipped. 80% learning via social learning(socialization) / 20% lecture.

Call me crazy, but I think humans learn best socially(conversationally) not by lecture via teacher. Talking and socializing should be integrated in how we learn and teach. The learning should largely be social between the students so that they actually learn material instead of just learning to temporarily remember the information for the next test.

The teacher should drift between the groups of students and clear up any misconceptions or disagreements that occur.

[–] calypsopub@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I agree, but maybe for older students. Have you ever tried to engage a group of young children in a discussion?

[–] mojo@lemm.ee -1 points 1 year ago

This community is so strange some times