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Right now there is a loneliness epidemic throughout the world. More and more people aren't entering relationships. Gen Z men are having significant trouble dating while there are some economic factors in the mix. From my own view and experiences combined with what I've read most Gen Z men are lack the social and communication skills to even enter a relationship. This has and in the future will lead to extreme issues. There's already been a marked rise in hostility towards women by young men (think Andrew Tate and his ilk) that's likely born out of this frustration. I would definitely say there's been a rise in gender hostility ever since the pandemic.

Back in the 50s there was arranged marriages. All a person had to do was just show but now that's gone because it was an unequal system and I think society missed its chance to establish something much healthier and better in its wake. Now we have people that are unable to connect with each other. We just toss people blindly into the mess that is human interaction and relationships and no one knows what to do anymore. We could be have the most fulfilling relationships humans have ever had. Think of the amount of people who would of never have entered abusive relationships had there been someone around them that showed them what love exactly is.

The way we teach is so heavily focused on teaching people how to be worker drones that we forget the human part of the person. This is why a lot of people who do extreme well in school and college fare so poorly in relationships and have higher rates of depression. We are the most educated and advanced in human history, we know psychology, we can teach this shit rather than tossing people blindly into the meat grinder.

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[–] SirStumps@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Back in the day someone's father would teach their son's how to court a woman. I had no real father figure growing up but I was lucky to have met my wife in highschool. I recently asked my grandmother how my grandfather courtes her and it was actually so simple.

Nowadays men and women have unrealistic expectations of each other and what relationship should be. Social media is also put a divide between us and how we communicate with each other from a very young age.

On top of this men have become afraid of failure when it comes to talking to women. This a long with social media saying you are a creep for taking a shot men have been crippled in their confidence.

I believe that social media should not be available to kids and young adults until adulthood. I believe that social media prevents people from socializing properly. Face to face communication with both sexs is crucial for humans.

[–] aslaii@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Can you make a basic bullet list on how to court a women? I have a girlfriend and I want to court her again xdd.

Give us the wise words

[–] SirStumps@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Lol. My Papa died before I could ask him but my Mimi told me in her own words.

  1. Meet the women
  2. Get to know women through average life events or through personal effort
  3. Take your shot
  4. .
  5. Profit

Don't be afraid of failure. In each failing is a lesson.

I have been married 15 years and it wouldn't have happened if I didn't try a second time.

[–] Someology@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
  1. Treat them like a human person.
  2. Let them know you like them without being pushy.
  3. Refer to item 1.