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Am i the a**hole for telling my coworkers no? (xalla.day)
submitted 8 months ago by SmokingFurry@xalla.day to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Let me start by saying I'm a "floor guy" at a small town hardware store. I am in training to be a manager but not one yet. I do a bunch of stuff around the store. Which leaves me busy a lot of the time.

We have a paint department that LOVES calling me and the other floor guys to do dumb things that is their job. Now, I don't mind helping here or there. However when I get called away from doing something to come pick up your empty boxes to bring them to the box crusher when you're supposed to, or to bring a box up to the register for a customer that weighs 10lbs.

I just get furious since they've been told not to do this. However they don't stop. I recently told them I'm not moving a box for them since they weren't busy. They were just playing on their phone while waiting on me.

They complained and the manager told them it's their job. Now I have multiple people mad at me because I tell them NO. When it's not my job unless they are too busy.

Am I the asshole?

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[–] AeroLemming@lemm.ee 91 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Just sharing my opinion: I'm not a fan of these kinds of posts. You're obviously not the asshole and it feels like you just posted this for validation. There is no ambiguity here and the post definitely gives off reddit-esque, "AITA for leaving my boyfriend of 2 months after he cheated on me with 9 people and stole a family heirloom worth $200,000 to fund his heroin addiction?" vibes.

[–] SmokingFurry@xalla.day 23 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (3 children)

I was just mad because I had a few people telling me I was a dick, smart-ass, asshole, ect. Just for telling them no. I thought maybe I was being unreasonable.

However I get what you're saying.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 14 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Might I suggest !vent@lemmy.world?

[–] SmokingFurry@xalla.day 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry 😞 I didn't know that was a community. I also really did want to know if i did something wrong, but I do see that as a better fit.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 8 points 8 months ago

Oh no don't apologize. Your post did well here. Just sharing another community.

[–] AeroLemming@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

That makes sense. They just sound lazy and upset that you aren't doing their jobs anymore. The fact that management sided with you says a lot.

[–] KISSmyOS@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

The issue probably wasn't you telling them no, but the way you did it.

[–] elbarto777@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

"Am I the asshole for now allowing strangers to kick me in the nuts every day?"

[–] No_Ones_Slick_Like_Gaston@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

Top this scenario with the frequent:
"the wedding is in two hours"
and it can also be in relationship advice