this post was submitted on 16 Dec 2023
350 points (98.3% liked)
me_irl
4724 readers
475 users here now
All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
A trait doesn't have to be deliberate or involve I'll intent towards others to be toxic.
Not asking for help that you need out of worry that you'll bring people down is one of the many ways in which depression lies.
Please take good care of yourself when you can and let others do it when you can't. And don't beat yourself up too much when you fail at either or both. That's what depression wants you to do. Never forget that depression has horrible ideas and depression lies.
I don’t disagree that it’s toxic, but rather the whole “gotta be a big tough guy” attitude that you said it comes from—and a follow-up comment alluded to toxic masculinity, which in the case I was making it absolutely is not.
In any event, we can agree that it all boils down to distorted, irrational thinking, and do agree that it is entirely unhealthy.