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[–] ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.world 92 points 11 months ago (5 children)

For me it's between refusing to use an umbrella because "it's gay" or refusing to sit in the middle seat of a work truck because of the same reason as the first.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 32 points 11 months ago (2 children)

TIL: being a top is NOT gay πŸ₯³

[–] Hyperreality@kbin.social 26 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You joke, but going back to the ancient greeks that traditionally wasn't seen as 'gay' or feminine, no. A top is dominant, therefore more masculine. A bottom is submissive, therefore feminine.

Still a thing to this day.

I'll be honest, I'm glad I'm older, and less worried about that kind of shit and can just be me.

[–] bouh@lemmy.world 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think the roman had it a bit different : the minion or whore would be active while the guy was laying down. They even had suspended ropes or poles so the sex slave could use it to properly do its job.

I don't remember what was bad for them, except for big penis being very shameful because too beasty.

I find roman and Greek very funny, because although they were extremely misogynistic, they had it all reversed compared to us. :D

[–] frankPodmore@slrpnk.net 10 points 11 months ago

Yeah, like they thought the Gauls were effeminate because Gaulish men... wore trousers and drank too much.

[–] pedroparamo@lemm.ee 16 points 11 months ago (3 children)

A good portion of Hispanics believe this. The gay one is the bottom one.

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I did very well when I visited Mexico for this reason. The amount of dudes just totally cool with topping was excessive. Guys who are, by their own cultural standards, completely straight hanging out of grindr. It was a glorious week.

[–] joshoff@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This is stupid hot β€” and a cross-cultural win–win

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 6 points 11 months ago

It was stupid hot. Lol. Also, apparently in the US I'm a disgusting fat fuck, whereas in Mexico, I'm whatever the Spanish word for thicc is, and have an ass worth pursuing. Lol.

Huh, like in ancient Rome. Nothing wrong with banging boys, but utterly shameful to be on the receiving end.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

"Muh ~~anal penetration~~ gaysex is the only straightsex

[–] Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 24 points 11 months ago

I’m alright with not holding an umbrella but I’d want a raincoat or something to keep me dry still.

But β€œfellas, is it gay to be dry?”

[–] neidu2@feddit.nl 7 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I refuse to use an umbrella myself, but mostly because I find them impractical and unnecessary. My skin and my earbuds are waterproof, plus where I live it usually rains sideways.

[–] pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Tom Tucker: "How's the weather, Olly?"

Olly:"IT'S RAININ SIDEWAYS"

[–] ComradePorkRoll@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I feel you. I find them more of a hassle than anything. I could go on for a bit on why they're annoying and you're better off using another method to stay dry. None of them are "don't use an umbrella because that's gay" though as I'm not an emotionally immature middle school boy that doesn't get enough attention at home.

[–] ginerel@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

To each their own. My jacket does not have a hood good enough to protect me, it sometimes falls off my head, doesn't protect my nose etc. So I prefer an umbrella.

spoiler

On a side note, I can also hang out with another person under it. But that would make me pretty gay, of course.

[–] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

Sitting in the middle seat of a work truck can get a little gay if you're driving a manual and need to shift into 2nd or 4th. Joking aside, I would probably use any excuse not to sit there because it's incredibly uncomfortable to straddle the transmission hump.