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I'm a hardcore introvert who rarely gets lonely, but it does happen occasionally.
Similar to your school function, I find it helpful to have one regular, structured event in my life that forces socialization.
For me that's a tabletop gaming group - we meet once a week to play. The structure and shared goal is helpful, because it takes the pressure off of pure socialization. If I'm feeling social I can crack jokes & banter during the game, but if not I can just focus on playing.
Also, a weekly cadence means that missing one session doesn't make me feel super lonely, because I know another is coming soon. Your function sounds tougher since its only once a year - you might be better off finding a similar activity that happens more regularly.
Really hard for me because there really is nothing like this going on where I live, I do have some friends which I occasionally hangout with but they are more kinda ‘wasting time/wandering around’ kinda friends, not people who i would share my problems with
Tbh I didn’t join the function to socialize, that’s also why I find it strange that I feel like this