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Whomever invited the other person, have the "right" to pay. If you both just bumped into each other, then the "home" side pays. If both persons are locals, then the socially "senior" pays. If both are of the same social rank, then the one who didn't pay the last time should pay. If all else fails, split it 50/50.
I had a weird dynamic recently that hit on almost all of these in conflicting ways.
I’m a manager at work and one of my direct reports was visiting my city on vacation. She invited me to breakfast with her and her husband. So: she invited, I’m local, she’s ~25 years older, but I’m the manager. Plus she had two guests, and it was just me.
I was ready to pay but when the check came her husband jumped on it so fast I didn’t even have a chance to push back. But then I gave her a $450 standing desk for free, so I guess she still got the good end of the deal!
Such odd rules for paying. I'd rather just talk to the person I'm dining with and see what they want to do. I prefer to just pay for what I ordered in all scenarios but if they insist after I say no once then I'll let them pay.