askchapo

GOOD post

More innocent on the part of men, but still bad societally: Men are more isolated than women. I realise that men have more access to power and privilege than women in this society, however men are also divorced from both their internal feelings and their communities in a way women (often) aren't. If you think about the typical men's friend circle, it's often mediated almost entirely around common hobbies and a once-common space (school, uni), and the conversations tend to be surface level and avoid anything particularly rough. There's an emphasis on never backing down from a position, lest one lose their position in the aforementioned hierarchy, which means that any interpersonal emotional discussions are very high labour and high risk. This is isolating. The most acceptable way to access that sort of connection is through a romantic relationship, for men at least. Women do sometimes experience this, but to a lesser degree. Men are also raised to have few emotions. Realistically, this means they still have those emotions but do not understand them well and outwardly try to express rage, glee, or lust (the real man emotions that aren't really emotions and you can express them without anyone lest yourself doubt your manly stoicism).

this part is very accurate and well-spoken