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yeah its mostly vibes. in general, a crowded, social place or a history of comfortably knowing each other makes me less skittish about guys approaching me. obviously im going to reject them cause im with my bf but its not concerning i think. being mindful of your positioning (re: dont physically back a woman into a corner to ask her out) and distance is also appreciated.
but this also is problematic in that bars and so on are very commercialized and expensive. if we had a normal society this wouldnt be an issue. closest thing to a 'free' place to hang out is a dating app or social media, lmao. theres also a lot of creeps at bars (need guarding drinks and so on) so people are more on guard.
Thanks for the pro tips