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Would someone please help me understand when using "they" as a catch-all pronoun is transphobic? (hexbear.net)
submitted 11 months ago by Acute_Engles@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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I've seen a few posts recently calling people out for using "they" when referring to someone with gendered or neo pronouns.

As a long time dumb guy I was under the impression that gender neutral pronouns were basically always acceptable and I'm now concerned that I have been unintentionally making people uncomfortable.

My current understanding based on context is that once someone has made their pronouns known, unless specifically included, 'they' is no longer acceptable. Thank you in advance for taking the time to help me out

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 24 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I do it for everyone, even cissies, because my brain is small but if you know someone personally or see their pronouns clearly displayed it's transphobic to not use them and be adamant about it. If you say they/them and they correct you just say sorry correct it and keep going

[–] somename@hexbear.net 14 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yeah a lot of times I fallback to they/them, because I’m lazy and a dum dum, but for people who have marked/known pronouns the effort should be made.