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Would someone please help me understand when using "they" as a catch-all pronoun is transphobic? (hexbear.net)

submitted 9 months ago by Acute_Engles@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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I've seen a few posts recently calling people out for using "they" when referring to someone with gendered or neo pronouns.

As a long time dumb guy I was under the impression that gender neutral pronouns were basically always acceptable and I'm now concerned that I have been unintentionally making people uncomfortable.

My current understanding based on context is that once someone has made their pronouns known, unless specifically included, 'they' is no longer acceptable. Thank you in advance for taking the time to help me out

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[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 20 points 9 months ago

It's only transphobic if you have someone purposefully using they instead of someone's preferred pronouns. Like they say as if they're confused at your gender even after you told them. This is a small enough language thing that if it only happens every once and a while it's barely noticeable, but if someone is using they in a transphobic way, it's easy to tell