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This is so well said. I was a dumbass until my son was born. Then everything in life was meaningless and my son became my sole purpose in life. My job became meaningless. My friends became meaningless. Everything was focused on being the best father I can be. What was interesting is that when I started getting less of a fuck at work, I started getting promoted and getting paid more. I had more confidence during interviews because I didn't give a fuck about them.
Anyways to each their own, but I want to thank you for replying.
Thanks man. It's insane how having a kid can change your perspective or focus. Like, yesterday I've been watching a crying two year old trying to figure out how to put on socks for 15 minutes and it was legit a beautiful and intense experience. I didn't expect I would ever say that about watching someone failing to put on socks. (Today it worked for the first time!)
And somehow not giving a fuck in other parts of life where you used to give a fuck is so crass. I'm one of those people who cannot make a phone call to make a dentist appointment. But if it's about my kid? Hand me the phone. I also am too tired now to give a crap about tiptoeing around issues or keeping my mouth shut when something is legitimately wrong.
As for work, I doubt I'll go back to what I've been doing before. I'll gladly take a pay cut but if I'm giving my child away to go to work I'm not going to do this for some bullshit job with no meaning.
This just seems sad to me personally