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I think it depends on circumstances.
We still have people here who use phrases like "Indian giver" and ">!wigger!<", and describe dads parenting as " babysitting". Phrases like these will offend people and should not be used.
Saying "partner" instead of husband/wife directly helps people who don't want to specify because being out of the closet is a political statement. Referring to your partner as your husband/wife/whatever doesn't offend anyone (at least, no reasonable person), but it's a nice gesture.
Then we have shit like LatinX which is made up by bored white people on Twitter. It's cringeworthy, stupid and nobody asked.
And these categories can change depending on locale. I live somewhere with little to no Romani population. If you tell someone here not to say "gypped", they will tell you to touch grass. Nobody knows or cares about the origin of that word here. As I understand it though, it can be a very un-pc thing to say in some parts of of the world.