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Would you work in a workplace in which someone you are attracted to also works if you were in a relationship? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 8 months ago by AdmiralDoohickey@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I am in the interview process for a job in a research group and it is going well so far. The only issue is that I was attracted to the person that interviewed me and I am going to be working with if I get hired.

My girlfriend is the most important person in the world for me so I don't want to risk catching feelings for someone else, but I also need to find a job if I am to rent a place to finally live with her.

What would you do in my case? Would you stop the interview process and try to find a job elsewhere or would you go for it and trust that you would do the right thing?

This question might sound deranged to you, but I have the full autism/ADHD/OCD combo so I am very out of touch with how the average person thinks.

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[–] D61@hexbear.net 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Are you incapable of being weird about it? Then... maybe its best for everybody to find some other place to work.

If you're aware of your attraction and can keep things socially acceptable and professional, there's no reason not to.

I had been working at a place with about 100 employees for quite a while. I'm not a super social person but, given the interactive nature of the work environment and the years spent there, I had developed a few casual work friendships. It took me by surprise when I realized I, a married guy close to 10 years older than the person in question, had a huge crush on one of the work friends. Once I realized what was happening, I slowly backed off interacting with them as often to let my feelings cool down.

[–] AdmiralDoohickey@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I am not incapable, just afraid of being incapable ig. You handled that matter perfectly, kudos

[–] D61@hexbear.net 3 points 8 months ago

In that case, you're probably going to be fine.