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I seem to have radicalized a bit too quickly. Does anyone have advice for this particular scenario (hexbear.net)
submitted 9 months ago by Hohsia@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Oh my. It seems like a shitload of otherwise progressive people have no qualms about the idea of a traditional marriage and the man retaining most of the control by default.

This makes me very uncomfortable because I have met some women who have internalized this idea (idk is it that patriarchy or am I overreacting?) which is just so weird to me.

Like, you’re a left-leaning person up until the point where you’re happy to be in a relationship with a cishet man who controls you now. This is society I guess 🤷‍♂️

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Would you by chance tell us a relevant story that has given you this impression? ✨

[–] Hohsia@hexbear.net 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Yeah of course

So I have a friend who is fairly left leaning. She is part of my DSA chapter and is involved with some local community causes. But she still sticks so hard to the idea of capitalism that says she should go out, find a spouse and buy a house in the suburbs with a few kids

I’ll admit I’m probably a bit biased, but this whole model is just unrealistic at this point, especially considering how the price of fucking everything continues to skyrocket.

Idk seems like people are just searching for happiness in a way that no longer makes sense and won’t even take the chance to second guess the prevailing notion of partnership

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 3 points 8 months ago

If you're not rich as fuck this is definitely unrealistic now, how is anybody gonna afford a house now? Where I live prices start at half a million fucking dollarydoos.

But also, when it comes to people's personal desires there's some degree of nuance, like maybe instead of it being capitalist brainwashing she just actually wants to own a house with her spouse and have a few kids? Socialism would allow for such things very easily, I'm pretty sure. Maybe she just doesn't wanna compromise her personal desires due to material conditions, even if she'll be in for a rude awakening regarding housing in the imperial core, lol. Idk why this would require anyone to SECOND GUESS THE PREVAILING NOTION OF PARTNERSHIP, or indeed "the idea of a traditional marriage and the man retaining most of the control by default", which doesn't even seem that relevant frankly?