"b-but bears are actually dangerous!" Shut the hell up.
this post was submitted on 11 May 2024
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Because the solution to women getting assaulted is to make men think about their actions. The post wasn't anymore divisive than the average black twitter meme. It was a simple tongue in cheek piece about how women have the impossible task of figuring out if a man is going to be their life partner or their rapist & murderer.
"Hey, would you rather be alone with a bear or a man?"
"A bear. And you should think about what you've done." "... Huh? "
Do you not understand that, as a very straight man, I've never once even thought about hurting a woman?
It's absolutely divisive. Stop.
But have you thought about challenging a man who does?
Ah yes, let me open myself up to physical violence because I'm a man and that's my place in the world.
Shut the fuck up
Are you aware that you get to make that choice and that women don't?
Are you aware that, as a man, I still have the right to protect myself?
God, go fuck yourself you troglodyte.
then you'd know it's not about you. I don't think women want to potentially be mauled to death by the bear, it's simply preferable to the horrible shit men do to women with astonishing regularity. kidnapped and raped to death, or kidnapped and raped for decades.
do you need links, to show how unfortunately regular this kind of thing is? because they'll turn your fucking stomach. just because you're ignorant about how often it happens doesn't mean you should take it personally when women make a logical choice. they're safer with the bear. You've never thought about hurting a woman, that's great, but it doesn't do shit for the women who have had this shit done to them by men for the history of the species.
oooOoh poor boy, it hurts your feelings huh? get over yourself.
Is vague with their wording, immediately backpedals to "I dOn'T mEaN aLl MeN"
Shut up
there's some real delusional entitlement going on here. one for all the supposedly 'good guys' who feel blamed for rapists - I don't rape women but would never begrudge their need to defend themselves. telling women they need to take literal risks for the sake of 'not hurting the good guys' feelings' seems kinda fucking gross.
I don't get why any man would jump to defend the chuds, unless they feel pointed out as a chud.
It absolutely is. You are saying no man, myself included, is safe. That no matter what good we might do individually, we will always be viewed as monsters. Can you not see why men find that hurtful?
look mate if you want to self identify as a rapist / creep, be my guest. if you want to identify that way and then wonder why people find it creepy, well, I don't have the crayons.
If you think women assume all men are rapists, you're wrong. if you think women assume some men are rapist creeps, that would be EXTREMELY RATIONAL. Now, compare those two categories with the number of times a woman has had to worry about being raped by a bear.
Come on, you can do it. Count on your toes if you need to. There we go: it's none.
So some, vs. None.
Now work it out.
I’m not self identifying as anything. You are saying woman should be more scared of me or any other man. And bears may not rape, but they do other damage.
I mean... the historical record is replete with horrible shit men do to women:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_incidents_of_violence_against_women
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Incidents_of_violence_against_girls
https://www.nativehope.org/missing-and-murdered-indigenous-women-mmiw
https://people.com/crime/gallery-elizabeth-smart-jaycee-dugard-kidnapping-survivors/
https://www.ranker.com/list/famous-serial-killers-of-women/ranker-crime
https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvv.pdf
so you figure it out for yourself mate, I have neither the time nor crayons.
The historical record is also replete with horrible shit men have done to other men. Doesn't mean I will cower in fear if I meet a random man, nor would I rather encounter a dangerous wild animal.
Imo this doesn't impact the men who would do such a thing in the slightest. You're just making the ones who have empathy feel bad, those who would rape are just getting their egos stoked by this fad: "Look at me, I'm more dangerous than a bear! That means I'm badass"
The problem is a large portion of rape is not done by serial rapists who rapes every chance they get, it's done by average dudes once or twice when an opportunity arrives. Most rape cases involve someone known to the victim.
Rape culture (as awkward and taboo of a phrase as it as) is a real thing that this bear analogy is pointing to. You may not have anything to examine in yourself that is the result of that culture but a metric fuck-ton of men do have internalized rape cultural aspects that need to be examined and extracted. The fact that so many women picked the bear is a testament to how pervasive that culture is, at least in their eyes.
The point isn't to stoke the egos of the serial rapists with no empathy, it's to use empathy to make the "average-Joe" rapist examine his internal biases before they turn into an actual rape.