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It doesn't bother you when you're referred to as a predator because you share a gender with some of them?
No. All I have to do is not be a predator, and no creepy glare, no threatening posture etc. It shouldn't be difficult yet somehow here we are with literal tons of my fellow man feeling attacked with the need to retaliate, over someone else's feelings. Actually I'll let the creepy glare slide even since I have that built into my face and I'm not about to get surgery for it.
I guess another way to look at the whole thing, is a bear isn't going to shoot or stab you. There are unstable fucks that shoot at people for accidentally going in the wrong driveway for food delivery or to turn around. In my city you dont even own the first several feet of the property whether you have a sidewalk or not.
There's a difference between "men can be dangerous and so I have to treat any unknown man like they are a threat" and "every man is dangerous." Being treated as dangerous when you are not is not a pleasant feeling, but I understand the need to do that. However, crossing from "you might be dangerous" to "you must be dangerous" happens all too often and IMO crosses a line.
There are dangerous people out there but try to remember that most people are just like yourself. I remember having to walk home several miles at an inhuman hour after work do to transportation challenges and for the most parts the streets were empty but there were some folks out and I remember feeling paranoid at the sort of people who are out at 3AM.
Then I realized how ridiculous my thoughts were I was out here after all so why was I judging them. They were most likely coming home from work or going to work, or out for some cool air or any number of things. They were people not caricatures. Objectively the level of danger was actually no much different than driving in busy traffic and probably less than the folks commuting by bike given how people drive.
I'm comfortable enough with my behaviour to know it's not about me. I'm not bothered, even a little bit.
It would be easier if everyone else felt that way too, wouldn't it?