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Why does everyone suddenly seem to think it's ok to say the R word again? I feel like I hadn't heard it in years and suddenly everyone around me is using it, and I see it on Reddit all the time. Am I imagining it? Is anyone seeing this? I don't even know what to say when it's suddenly just everyone in a group and everyone acts like it's normal.

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[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 19 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

You're not imagining it.

I've seen it (and many other ableist slurs) used far too often, especially for a site that is generally supposed to be more left leaning (which tbf isn't saying much when it comes to combatting ableism because we seem to have very few true allies) but is also full of tech-bros, who love punching down at others based on perceived intelligence, and who also have quite a lot of crossover with 4chan type cesspits, so sadly it isn't unexpected.

I call it out it when I see it, and generally block and report, but what I find most frustrating is that mods throughout lemmy/fediverse (again, even on the most supposedly left leaning instances like lemmy.ml) just ignore the reports and don't remove the comments (I know people are busy, I don't expect instant action, I give it a week or two in general before I check the modlog).
I've had to block several large communities, most that I'm actually interested in (mostly tech and science related, again, places where people love feeling superior based on perceived intelligence), because I get the message - making people like me feel safe and included isn't a priority in those spaces, so I refuse to occupy them.

Whether the privileged group accept it or not, that is the result of using slurs - making already marginalised people feel unwelcome and excluded.

And when they tell me not to be so easily offended, I link this (or maybe this or this) with the full knowledge that they will probably never read it, but with the hope that someone else might, and that it might make them reconsider their use of certain words (though I don't hold my breath in anticipation of society at large giving a shit).

[–] Vodulas@beehaw.org 8 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Those are some awesome resources, yoinking those for sure.

Ableism and fatmisia are some the last bastions of acceptable and casual bigotry, so they are for sure the hardest to get rid of. Usually when you bring up the eugenics origin, at least for people around me, folks tend to take a step back. Often I lead with that.

[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Those are some awesome resources, yoinking those for sure.

The more the merrier!

Ableism and fatmisia are some the last bastions of acceptable and casual bigotry

Yup, the other day I had to really quickly back out of some comments sections on articles related to fast food because the comments were so full of fat shaming it made me rage. People don't think twice about either.

Usually when you bring up the eugenics origin, at least for people around me, folks tend to take a step back.

In my experience they get even more defensive, because eugenics is something they recognise as bad, but not their casual ableism, or the existence of a relationship between the two.. But then these are randoms on the internet I'm talking about, not people actually close to me, they'd probably be much more reasonable if it ever came to it lol

You have inspired an infodump, some links specifically go in to the eugenics connection, others are a bit more broad (I also have a bunch about the relationship between capitalism, "productivity", and ableism, and some on the myth of independence, which I wasn't sure were closely related enough, but am more than happy to share as well!) if you want more articles to yoink:

https://www.drakemusic.org/blog/nim-ralph/understanding-disability/

https://www.yorku.ca/edu/unleading/ableism/ (the entire project is worth a look)

https://liminalnest.wordpress.com/2018/06/23/intelligence-is-a-myth-on-deconstructing-the-roots-of-cognitive-ableism/

https://www.northwestern.edu/onebook/the-reluctant-mr-darwin/essays/darwin-morality.html

https://www.theguardian.com/science/occams-corner/2013/may/09/evolutionary-theory-gone-wrong-darwin

https://web.archive.org/web/20230605065733/https://ollibean.com/intelligence-is-an-ableist-concept/

https://disabledfeminists.com/2009/10/23/ableist-word-profile-intelligence/ (the entire blog is worth a look)

https://gracelapointe.medium.com/some-thoughts-on-online-ableism-424e26f1bb2a

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/09/symptoms-executive-dysfunction/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/andrewpulrang/2019/12/27/ableist-narratives-that-poison-disability-policy-and-disabled-peoples-lives/

[–] Vodulas@beehaw.org 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Hell yes, thanks for the resources!

[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Sure thing, I'm always happy to share useful info!

Also, was the "hell yes" to more links or just in general? You're good either way, don't worry.. 😂

[–] Vodulas@beehaw.org 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Cool. I figured I'd just troll my bookmarks and paste anything related, but there was more than I realised lol. I did cut back, but this still feels like a bit much, sorry 😂

Language related:

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/331107477_SaytheWord_A_Disability_Culture_Commentary_on_the_Erasure_of_Disability

https://fightingtalk.substack.com/p/disability-is-not-a-dirty-word

https://30daysofautism.blog/2023/03/21/lets-talk-about-language-is-disability-a-bad-word/

https://sailhelps.org/so-whats-wrong-with-the-word-handicapped/

https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/05/grammar-snobbery/

https://medium.com/no-prescription-needed/grammar-the-worlds-most-under-recognized-social-construct-a54e096ecc9c

https://theautisticadvocate.com/functioning-labels-why-you-shouldnt-be-using-them-thanks-a-bunch-terminology-dudes/

https://www.ncmh.info/2019/04/04/fallacy-functioning-labels/

https://graymattersmd.com/functioning-labels-autism/

https://web.archive.org/web/20231127173144/https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/15-common-phrases-that-are-way-more-ableist-than-you-may-realize/

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/alternatives-to-oppressive-language/

https://web.archive.org/web/20201108200517/https://raddle.me/f/Illegalism/77441/40-alternatives-to-ableist-and-oppressive-words

https://www.autistichoya.com/p/ableist-words-and-terms-to-avoid.html

https://www.learningforjustice.org/magazine/no-joking-matter-words-and-disability

Capitalism/"productivity" related:

https://dailyfreepress.com/2020/11/19/mind-your-business-ableism-is-rooted-in-capitalism/

https://atmos.earth/productivity-culture-ableism-ecofeminism-capitalism-the-slow-grind/

https://thestrand.ca/capitalism-ableism-and-the-glamorization-of-productivity/

https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2021/09/24/pers-s24.html

https://www.npr.org/2021/09/24/1039676445/laziness-does-not-exist-devon-price

Independence related:

https://web.archive.org/web/20240224035644/https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/independence-is-an-ableist-myth-unlocking-the-power-of-community-in-healing/

https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2011/02/12/changing-the-framework-disability-justice/

Covid related:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/andrewpulrang/2022/01/31/6-ways-responses-to-covid-19-have-been-ableist-and-why-it-matters/

https://www.mencap.org.uk/press-release/eight-10-deaths-people-learning-disability-are-covid-related-inequality-soars

https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2024/03/09/xdvx-m09.html?pk_kwd=wsws

https://www.disabilitynewsservice.com/it-was-emergency-planning-that-was-vulnerable-during-covid-not-disabled-people-inquiry-is-told/

https://www.donotpanic.news/p/its-all-out-war-on-the-vulnerable?utm_source=publication-search

https://www.donotpanic.news/p/mass-disabling-event-denial?utm_source=publication-search

Internalized ableism:

https://www.neurodiverging.com/what-is-internalized-ableism-neurodivergent-people-need-to-know/

https://www.autisticparentsuk.org/post/overcoming-internalised-ableism

Other/general:

https://www.fullspectrumchildcare.com/blog/to-be-a-radical-crip-and-the-power-in-identifying-as-one

https://deathsbywelfare.org/

https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2017/08/06/forced-intimacy-an-ableist-norm/

https://privateplacespublicspacesblog.wordpress.com/about-the-project/

https://www.euronews.com/2023/06/05/i-see-the-scar-and-i-want-to-die-why-the-eu-allows-sterilisation-of-women-with-disabilitie

https://blueannoyed.wordpress.com/2024/04/30/welcome-to-the-crip-warehouse/

https://www.womenspress.com/what-can-feminists-make-of-the-eugenicist-history-of-abortion/

https://level.medium.com/disability-justice-is-an-essential-part-of-abolishing-police-and-prisons-2b4a019b5730

https://www.upress.umn.edu/book-division/images/other-images/9781452963495_intro.pdf

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/354037224_Destroying_Disability_Expanding_Application_of_the_Genocide_Convention

https://alexschadenberg.blogspot.com/2024/03/scotlands-deceptive-euthanasia-bill.html?m=1&mibextid=K35XfP

https://disability-memorial.org/

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/dec/09/from-the-wheelchair-using-black-panther-to-the-cripple-suffragette-10-heroes-of-the-disabled-rights-movement

https://www.theguardian.com/money/2020/jun/24/you-cant-pay-cash-here-how-cashless-society-harms-most-vulnerable

https://themighty.com/topic/disability/tweet-thread-straw-bans-disability/

https://medium.com/@thorafelicitybell/our-environmentalism-has-to-be-intersectional-4cf824ab2aa4

https://www.eater.com/2018/7/19/17586742/plastic-straw-ban-disabilities

https://www.bvanudgeconsulting.com/bias-of-the-week/just-world-hypothesis/

[–] Vodulas@beehaw.org 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

lol, It is not too much at all. I mean, I won't be reading it all at once, but I love having resources

[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 3 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

It's always nice to meet a fellow link collector lol

I'll admit it might be a while since I've read some of these myself (or in the case of the book pdf - not fully yet) so they might not all be up to date, but the gist should still stand.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Fat shaming is likely to be the most difficult to combat, because it's based on an unhealthy condition anyone can slip into, so it has a warning component similar to drunk-driving shaming, the Darwin awards, various "fails", etc. where people suffer the consequences of their own choices.

[–] Vodulas@beehaw.org 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

it’s based on an unhealthy condition anyone can slip into

I am not saying this is what you believe, but you're right that people for sure over simplify it into that, and say things like "just eat less and exercise more." The truth is much more complicated. There are a ton of factors involved and often people have unrelated conditions they can't get help with because doctors will just say "you just need to lose weight."

https://www.npr.org/2022/06/23/1107166691/medical-bias-against-obesity-is-preventing-patients-from-receiving-proper-care

That and a lot of "overweight" people are not unhealthy.

https://www.science.org/content/article/obesity-doesn-t-always-mean-ill-health-here-s-what-scientists-are-learning

As usual, the truth is far less cut and dry as people think, and should just stop shaming people for it.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 1 points 5 months ago

When I say "based on", I mean that there are some cases where overweight is actually unhealthy, and some otherwise healthy people can, for a series of reasons, become unhealthy.

The problem about shaming above-average BMI people, is that it has two extremes:

  • on one hand, a thin-cult that leads to eating disorders
  • on the other, "fat activists" and "plus size" models dying of heart attacks at ages of 40 and under

What I believe, is that the shaming itself is a bigoted take on a warning against the latter. My point was that it's going to take extra effort to remove the bigoted behavior, when there is a valid reason to have a warning.

Ideally, we should get to a point where the root cause of unhealthy behaviors could be addressed directly, but we're like two or three layers away from that.