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Being "vetted" by them...
Maybe you don't like the wording, but everyone does this. Unless you know if someone will be a close friend the moment you lay eyes on them, or are friends with literally everyone you've spent time with.
Yes everyone does it naturally and mostly subconsciously over time as they get to know people. You've got to be a real psycho to be running through a checklist you've crowd sourced online. Wtf is this thread. Ugh reddit refugees lmao.
I personally doubt OP is going to actually use the answers like that.
Well, many people have hard line stances for some things so they’re instantly aware of someone crossed the line. I’m acquaintances with some people who I would normally think are ghouls because if we avoid certain topics, we’re fine.
Then it's unconscious. Hopefully the criteria are ones you'd agree with if they were conscious.
For real this seems like a major red flag.