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Im perpetually embarrassed after abusive work ethic since I was little. Everything was attacked and work was endless. Any tips on becoming more gregarious and less ashamed? (hexbear.net)
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My perfectionism is disabling. I ban myself from doing anything I don't feel like I'll do perfect at. I barely do things I love and don't know my interests well. I love people and mingling, but I grew up selectively mute until highschool and to this day I have a hard time being direct. I overthink all texts. I used to type one sentence for hours and not send anything. My humor is very underdeveloped because I don't risk bombing jokes. There's so much I won't do unless someone is there encouraging me and enthusiastically approving of what I'm doing. I have severely low self esteem because of my level of perfectionism. I just want to hang out and chill with people and have interests that I act on.

Btw, what do you do when you need to do something you love, fast?

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[–] SmokinStalin@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago

Honestly recommending trying some weed and art of your choice ( whether its a book, music or videogame) for your situation. Also you need to understand that failure and success are both useful for growing as a person. YOUR MISTAKES ARE HOW YOU LEARN. Embrace em.