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It's not limited to sci-fi/fantasy, but anything around monogamy, love triangles, heteronormativity.
If humans on earth today can form a wide variety of relationships other than a man + woman nuclear family, so can aliens and such living in completely different cultures.
"I love Alex and Bryan how can I choose just one??" You don't have to. Stop it.
I recently read a fantasy novel called Silver Under Nightfall that has to be one of the first proper poly novels I've ever seen
The main character has an obvious attraction to a woman, and a confused lust for her husband. Both the husband and wife are into the main character. It's not high literature but I had a blast reading it anyway
That sounds neat. But also reminds me of a related peeve: Where non-monogamy is depicted, it's always like a group. A throuple.
In real life, I'm dating a woman. She has a wife. I am not dating her wife. I am friendly with her wife, but that's it. My date is also dating another man. We're friendly. We talk about video games. But we're not a thing together.
The polycule looks something like this. I know there's more people further removed from me, but I don't know them well (or in some cases at all). That's okay.
Non-monogamy doesn't have to be a triangle. There's a reason "polycule" is a really good pun.
I don't know if this has been depicted in media other than like niche fanfiction.
Not nearly so detailed, but Sing For the Coming of the Longest Night is a great little fantasy story about two metamours that have to go rescue their mutual partner from a magical realm.
This looks perfect, and my library has a copy. Adding it to my to-read list.