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What is a softie?
A kind of ice cream, I think.
And I'm hungry again, great
Someone who gets upset at the seemingly silliest stuff. Like a little bit of teasing for example. I get rlly sad n stuff when someone teases me even when it's apparently "harmless fun" or whatever.
That's the problem - with them, not you - they know you react, so they needle you.
It's shitty behavior and it's not harmless fun.
Thank you for saying that. Sometimes it just feels like there's something wrong with me, you know? Whatever...
You are who you are, and trying to cover that up just leads to further issues down the line.
To some degree, a skill you can learn is to accept it and let it roll off. Laugh with them. Because all the time you spend dwelling on what was said to you just drags you down into a pointless funk and reframes how you think about yourself.
You're sensitive, that's an asset. If your friends want to exploit that, ask them to stop and find better friends if they won't.
Hehe yea, I'm quite sure I'd be doing that a lot more from now on!
thats not softie in the usage I have encountered. For me its always been applied to someone who goes out of their way to help something that others might not bother with. Like moving bugs to another location rather than squashing them or helping a bird that fell out of a tree or such. Honeslty I don't think I have ever encountered it as much of an insult its more compliment but can suggest one might be to soft to do stuff I guess. Im used to hearing it, even in media, as like. you old softie.
Oh, then maybe it's a mistranslation from my part then. What I meant is someone gets easily upset, uk... Someone who's not "hard and strong".