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Oh, I don't think being Ace equals a bad time, but I don't understand the concept of romance or sexual attraction on a personal level (I understand it in media). I feel like I'm missing out on that sort of stuff. But I'm otherwise happy with my cat 🙌🏾
~~I'm also gross and I think if I can't put out, no one is willing to hang out with me. I feel like if I at least put out I'd have something to offer~~
personally i don't understand it on a personal level, and i don't find it appealing in media either, as its just an extension of that. And i prefer genuine human interactions to hee hee hoo hoo sex scene, look these characters are intimate and close, because more often than not, it's just shitty writing unfortunately.
personally i just operate under a very specific pretense, and either inform people of it, or fuck with them because they aren't expecting it. I have oddly specific and weird standards for a "prospective partner" so it's not really something i think about or actively worry about, it'll either happen or not, and i'll be perfectly happy either way lol.
friends are weird though. I like having acquaintances more than friends, i think. I'm not sure that's related to being ace, or some flavored autism bit, or perhaps something spicier, but it's definitely something. Friendships are hard bro.