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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 60 points 3 months ago (4 children)

So many things.

  • queer phobic. I'm not queer but many of my friends are. I don't need that negativity in my life.
  • smoker. Maybe a pass if they are actively trying to quit. Maybe. Most active smokers I've known have kind of been assholes about it, though.
  • littering. Sometimes combined with the above when smokers throw their butts on the ground
  • being a jerk about people having healthy hobbies. Like, just let someone enjoy some video games or bird watching or whatever. I can't with people who are like "omg that's so childish you still [play games/read fiction/go to the zoo/whatever]?".
  • being anti-consent. I've met a few women who are like "just do stuff and I'll tell you if I don't like it" and I'm like lady there's some "stuff" that can be done that by the time it's happening , the damage is done. Let's just have a conversation about what we like and what our boundaries are.
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 47 points 3 months ago (1 children)

littering.

I was going out with this guy I really liked. Probably 3rd or 4th date. We decided to take a drive, and went to a local grist mill. Walked around, had a nice time. Took the scenic route home on this road that ran along a pristine Tennessee Creek. He was drinking a Gatorade or something, and when he finished it, rolled down the window and chucked the bottle out into the creek.

I stopped the car, made him go pick it up (or I wasn't going to drive him the 20+ miles home), and never called him again. Fuck. That. Behavior.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Good for you. That's disgusting behaviour.

[–] AlecSadler@sh.itjust.works 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The fuck is wrong with going to the zoo? Other than if it's a shitty zoo giving animals a shit life, but c'mon.

[–] juliebean@lemm.ee 17 points 3 months ago (2 children)

it's "childish" to enjoy fun things like the zoo, according to some incomprehensibly boring and immature people.

[–] refalo@programming.dev 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

This is so many people on IRC it's not even funny.

Especially most libera mods. Their god complexes can be seen from space, they're often highly unreasonable, hold decades long grudges and have a hair trigger for anyone even remotely trying to be funny.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 months ago

Ah yes, so childish you need a Master's degree to get an internship there.

[–] TheFriar@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

People think there’s a fuckin cutoff age for reading fiction?

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -5 points 3 months ago (4 children)

smoking

anti-consent

Can't help but feel a "my body my choice, your body my choice" vibe from this

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I don't understand what you are trying to say.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I just think it's odd that you immediately associate smoking with being an asshole - unless they're quitting. Like you make it very clear that personal agency is important to you - but smoking makes you a piece of shit.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 10 points 3 months ago

Smoking is bad for the smoker and everyone around them. If you're not even trying to stop, you are kind of a piece of shit.

I don't see what that has to do with asking for consent to touch someone's butt.

[–] vfreire85@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

i don't think being a smoker necessarily makes you an a*shole, but surely makes other people live with the smell and the taste of tobacco. and you can't force people to do that.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -1 points 3 months ago

I make it a point to not discuss things like this when people aren't thinking clearly.

When you smoke a cigarette the smoke doesn't automatically find the nearest non-smokers lungs in order to harm them. The smoke settles, and there are more than enough places far enough away from people to smoke at.

If you're worried about secondhand smoke harming you in any context outside of smoking indoors - I'm sorry but you just aren't thinking clearly.

[–] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

It's fine to not be into whatever you want. If I said I didn't find Asians attractive, that wouldn't make me a racist. (I do, for the record, same as I'm into boys of every other nationality, but if I didn't it would still be a personal preference and no one's business but my own.)

[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Nope. You literally cannot smoke without polluting others.

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee -3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

You also literally can't play videogames without polluting others, since some of the electricity is still generated by burning coal. You also literally can't do any other thing either probably, since electricity is used in creating almost everything, or at least some other pollution.

I think if someone tries to make sure not to smoke near unknown people or people that don't want it, they're acceptable in my book.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works -2 points 3 months ago

These people are under the impression that secondhand smoke is sentient and immediately finds the nearest non-smokers lungs to pollute. I wouldn't expect logic to get through to them.

[–] Miaou@jlai.lu 0 points 3 months ago

You mean smokers cannot respect consent? Agreed