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I know that here I am pretty loud and obnoxious, but IRL I actually have like, really bad social anxiety. Especially when talking to guys. (Actually come to think of it it's usually only happens when I have to talk to guys I find attractive crush )

Sometimes it's fine, but other times it's like my brain does a blue screen of death and I can't even think of words to say.

Is there a way to get my brain working normal in these situations? I already taken anti-anxiety meds and they help a little, but not always.

Any tips to stop my goofy ass brain from crashing?

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[–] MattsAlt@hexbear.net 6 points 5 months ago

It's super corny, and possibly just a placebo, but I've used this for various things that induce social anxiety or anxiety in general. Sit back and think about the event, as you feel the anxiety growing, try to focus instead on what might be exciting about it

For interview, the prospect of a new gig, for going out with a group or other social engagement, anything fun there, for meeting new people, finding a shared interest with someone

I read somewhere that the feelings of anxiety and excitement can be very similar, so you can almost redirect the anxiety to something more beneficial. It doesn't help actually talking to people, but it helps get you out of your head and into the moment. Ymmv