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A few minutes away from asking my girlfriends parents for their blessing. I'm so fucking nervous (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by yokonzo@lemmy.world to c/justpost@lemmy.world

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Edit: they said yes!!!!! ☺️ still have the jitters though

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[–] yokonzo@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Wtf do you think I'm asking for them to give me her as a prize or something? Im telling her parents how much I love her and asking them if they'll accept me into the family, then I'll ask the same of her.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I mean, yes, that is where the tradition comes from. I would be so insulted if my partner asked my parents if they wanted me to marry someone, before they even spoke to me about it. I'm sure you know your potential partner better than we do, but it's still worth considering that they might not be as into it as you assume.

If the parents say no, do you just silently drop the whole thing? Of course not. It's kind of performative, and the message it sends is quite out of date.

[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago

Don't listen to the haters in this thread. I got married 7 years ago. I asked, but it was more of a 'hey, I'm going to ask her; are you guys ok with it?'.

Like when I proposed, I already knew the answer to the question.

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee -1 points 1 month ago

Don't worry about ... Checks notes "jerk face". Just do your thing.