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How do you guys deal with anger? (hexbear.net)
submitted 5 months ago by LeylaLove@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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I'm not a very angry person, I don't really have it in me to be genuinely pissed most of the time. Sometimes I'll get irritated, and I can usually kinda DBT my way through it, but honestly I'm really pissed at my ex. The more I think about everything horrible she did and continues doing, the more I kinda spiral into being pissed and it's not helping me at all but I don't really know how to decompress all of it. I'm rightfully pissed, she did some truly nuclear shit I'd need content warnings for, and having that anger is healthy at some level. But like I said, I need to get my mind off this shit so I don't become a bitter divorced dad lol

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[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

acclimating to pain isn't healing.

[–] HotAtForty@hexbear.net 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

No but objects in the rear view mirror appear larger than they really are.

Perspective comes with time and perspective can change everything.

Healing is a process and it takes time to do its work. Having the heat of recent emotions fade can put them into perspective and make them easier to understand and process. It’s very difficult or even counterproductive to try and process something when you’re in the heat of anger or otherwise inflamed about it.