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I'm on holiday for a fortnight now. Away with a group of friends at a chalet that one of them owns. Im overlooking the bay, the sea is beautiful and the weather is fine.
Im quite a bit over 30 - late 50s - and we have been doing this for just over half my life now.
This time, however, one of the friends isn't here, since he is getting more and more reluctant to leave his house at all and has been since covid. Another isn't here because he has just been in for an operation to remove a melanoma.
The effects of aging are definitely being quite prominent at the moment.
Sounds great! I do it too with my friends, we celebrated the tenth edition not so long ago.
Sorry to hear that your friend couldn't join.
That sounds wonderful. Makes me wish I had made more of an effort to keep up with my old friends/make more in adulthood.
Surprisingly well! I've been dealing with a toxic coworker who was terminated for their toxicity, so that was encouraging. I have a chronic illness that has been flaring up that is now starting to chill out again. Best of all, my workaholic wife just had a revelation that working herself to death is bad and her employer is taking advantage of her. She might just quit her job for awhile and I'd love that. She has literally several months of PTO banked so it's doable.
So nothing amazing happened, but the big three negative things in my life just became less negative and the reduction in stress is huge.
How are you doing?
Seems great!
Pretty good on my side, not much happening
You have ups, and you have downs. This week I chose to focus on myself and my needs: I read two books, listened to music, spent time with the baby, reconnected with my partner by actively being more present, cooked delicious food all week (banana nut muffins this morning topped it off), started a professional mentorship series with a few former coworkers, and didn't have a single sev1 fire to deal with or put out this week at work.
But even as I type this, I realize how everything I've described above is just a small part of everything that made my week what it was, and how much of my perception of the week is due to intentionality toward things I give energy and mental/emotional focus to. We shape our own worlds every day, to one degree or another. This week I've been thinking a lot about the world(s) I'm shaping, actively and passively, and how previous choices have culminated in the experience I'm having now.
It was great when my offer got accepted and then not so great when the inspection revealed major issues
Aren't those things supposed to go on the opposite order? So you aren't putting an offer on a money pit.
No, your offer gets accepted and you have 5 business days to have an inspection and back out of the deal. Inspections take a long time and it would interfere with showings
Definitely not how it went when I purchased a few years ago.
So you paid to have an inspection before you even put in an offer?
You don't have to, but it's a good idea. Having an offer accepted generally signals your intention to piurchase.
We must be in different countries because this is the standard order of events in the US. Especially in today's market where houses rarely last a week but it was the same when I bought my condo in 2010
I'm in the US. The shorter time has made it very difficult but even I was able to do it in 2021 when you were lucky to have a few days to decide.
I'm honestly shocked because my mom worked for a real estate office when I was a kid and my cousin is my realtor now and I've never even heard of doing an inspection before an offer was accepted. Tour slots are half an hour and my condo inspection took an hour... This inspection took 4. Not to mention both inspections cost several hundred dollars each.
We're definitely talking about the same thing, right? I'm not talking about inspecting the home yourself (that's the tour), I mean hiring a professional home inspector to create a report.
Yep, hiring a guy to inspect it. I think I did an inspection on another house before the one I got. It's worth it when they find issues, and that's the point of doing it before an offer.
That is....very atypical lol
You get your earnest money back if you terminate the contract in those 5 days so there's not much of an advantage to doing the inspection before your offer is accepted.
This was my 5th offer so I would have been out $2000 for 4 houses I was never going to get. There's also no way to do a radon test during showings because the doors have to be closed so an inspector would have to go back a second time
Which kind of offers?
Buying a house (or rather, not)
Good thanks, reading Orwell's lessor known books, getting a tan and sold newspapers for my political party at the rail drivers picket line.
My youngest just graduated from college on Friday. I have out of town friends at my house. This is a pretty good weekend!
Having at least three 12's this week wasn't on my agenda but it is what it is. Plus side is I can shitpost at work all I want, so I got that going for me.