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[–] _number8_@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

yes

i wish we could disable inbox replies on here

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And then there's those times when you wrote a reply that you realize kinda sucks or has an error and the person replies before you can fix/delete it!

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[–] Jabozar@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Lurker here, wanted to chime in to say yeah, all the time. Everything's usually been said or will be said, so why bother. And arguing with strangers online rarely amounts to anything constructive. It seems a lot of people just aren't open to change or have their opinion/biases changed or challenged, though I'm hoping I'm wrong!

[–] exododo@leminal.space 4 points 1 year ago

Almost always lately, I don't even fini

[–] Orionza@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Not worth the stress. I mostly only post now if my comment is helpful (like someone is asking a question and I know the answer) or I'm posting something positive. I learned not to get into it with folks. I do not post in political or news or opinionated areas, and mostly stopped reading them. Someone always has the opposite opinion, and instead of being kind about it, they snipe and snark (you're lucky if you get just that!)

[–] Rukmer@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Maybe 30% of the time.

[–] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago
[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Not often enough

[–] somePotato@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago
[–] mtchristo@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Very often, especially cause I don't want to stir shirt with my controversial takes, and can't be bothered to follow on lengthy arguments.

[–] wick@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

Maybe 1-2 times a day I start a comment, I average a comment a week.

[–] Redonkulation@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I do it constantly on Lemmy and constantly in my inner voice throughout the day.

[–] CoderKat@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

I find it more common to do this for replies to my comments. I'm far more likely to post a first comment in a thread, but if someone has some disagreeing reply, the odds I'll say "fuck it, I don't care" is a lot, lot higher.

[–] dvdv@feddit.nl 3 points 1 year ago

Most of the time while I'm writing a reply or comment it I think about how it benefits the user I'm responding to/what reponses I will get and how to minimize any confusion. Once those thoughts have entered my mind, I rarely click the button to post it.

[–] ImFresh3x@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I just don’t check replies to everything I write. I’m not trying to go back and forth for days. But ya, I delete quite a few drafts.

[–] mo_lave@reddthat.com 3 points 1 year ago
[–] Astroturfed@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I almost always post the reply. But, if it's "not worth it" I just put in very, very low effort. Keep responding, but make it clear you're putting in very little effort. Like letting a boxer punch themselves out. Just laugh at how they keep going. It's pretty entertaining sometimes.

[–] fdbryant3@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I find I start replies only to eventually abandon them as "just not worth it" more and more nowadays.

[–] stepanzak@iusearchlinux.fyi 2 points 1 year ago

I should do it much more often

[–] Desistance@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Too many times.

[–] dpkonofa@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

A lot. I’m self-aware enough to know that I have a huge hangup about “correctness” and “accuracy”. If someone makes claims, I want to see their evidence and I want to know how their evidence supports their claim. Unfortunately, with some people, they don’t understand what evidence is, they don’t care if other evidence disproves what they’re saying, and nothing I ask or say will suddenly cause them to respond in good faith. In those cases, but not all, I just drop it and delete my comments. It happens all the time and it’s always worth it.

[–] sam@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

At least once a day.

[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 1 year ago

Not this time.

[–] Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Not often enough.

[–] SayJess@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

About 25% of the time I will start writing a comment only to find that I don’t think my argument is compelling enough, or otherwise is not something I feel makes a good point.

[–] Kuvwert@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

8/10 replies

[–] someguy3@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You did this just for funny replies, didn't you?

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[–] ettyblatant@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Mostly I type the way I speak, which tends to ramble a lot. One time forever ago someone on Reddit gave me shit and asked if I was not a native English speaker (aw, I sure do miss reddit!). Since then, I largely delete my comments because I'm sensitive about sounding wrong/stupid.

[–] andyMFK@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago

Probably 80% of the time

Way more if I'm on my phone and it's a bad autocorrect day.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Often enough, which I view as a flaw from myself.

I often delete my comments while repeating to myself the mantra of the wiseman on the mountain.

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