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Your experiences with quitting porn? (lemmygrad.ml)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by smrtfasizmu@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml
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I recently stopped watching porn after doing some reading on proletarian/marxist feminism. This article in particular was really good imo: https://proletarianfeminist.medium.com/a-socialist-feminist-and-transgender-analysis-of-sex-work-b08aaf1ee4ab

I was wondering if anyone else is in a similar boat? Porn is a powerful drug and it can be really difficult to give it up if you're addicted (which I am unfortunately). Is anyone willing to share their porn-free journey and give some advice and tips?

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[–] Navaryn@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

btw, does anyone have experience with quitting porn when porn is the only way to experience the things that actually turn you on? I would NEVER do to a woman the shit i'm into, niche porn sites are the only places where i can find that kind of stuff while also being able to lie to myself by saying "this is ok because i am not actually doing it".

Obviously it's still horribly bad and wrong on so many levels, but i feel like i have no other option. I have no issues getting partners but sex within socially accepted boundaries just does nothing for me. And i genuinely fear that if i try to repress it all, i will eventually lose control.

i have postponed dealing with this for years, i really don't know what to do

[–] CannotSleep420@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I would NEVER do to a woman the shit i’m into, niche porn sites are the only places where i can find that kind of stuff while also being able to lie to myself by saying “this is ok because i am not actually doing it”.

Considering the effect porn has on people, there's a good chance the situation is more the reverse: instead of wanting to do fucked up shit driving you to look at porn, you're driven to want to do fucked up shit because of porn. I don't know your circumstances so I can't say for sure, but that is a thing porn tends to do to people.

[–] Navaryn@lemmygrad.ml -1 points 2 years ago

I wish that were true because it would make it possible to go on a "detox" journey and get rid of everything, but the fantasies i have started pretty much as soon as puberty kicked in - long before i had access to porn, let alone the tech and english skills to search for very specific content

[–] Kirbywithwhip1987@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Srry, I just can't wrap up my head on how and why people watch that disgusting stuff...

[–] ihaveibs@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 2 years ago

What life in the imperial core does to a mf

[–] Navaryn@lemmygrad.ml -1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

i mean it's not exactly a mistery. We are sexual beings, the orgasm releases a lot of feel-good chemicals and we are hardwired to chase things that make us feel good. It's both something inherently addictive and something tied into our very psychology.

it's like not being able to wrap up your head on how and why people eat fast food even though it's unhealthy. Both our bodies and minds respond positively to it, that's all

[–] RedCat@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I asked something similar a few months back. Feel free to scroll through the thread. There is some useful information there (easy peasy and IFS for example)

[–] smrtfasizmu@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago

Thank you <3