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[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I would give myself a hug and tell myself it'll all be ok.

[–] bremen15@feddit.de 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Great approach. Check out ifs

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[–] bremen15@feddit.de 4 points 10 months ago

Internal Family System. A therapeutic approach based on system theory approaches child-like inner parts and gives them the affection and love they needed (and still need) when those parts formed.

[–] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

I think they are talking about internal family systems. It's a type of therapy.

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 3 points 10 months ago

Sounds like you went through some difficult times. Really glad things worked out ok for you

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I hope you're good, man.

I think I'd be the opposite. I'd be like, "It still sucks, and the loneliness hits harder than ever, fella. But when you're 24, you'll get something that'll change your life."

Just to leave this oit there for the concerned; I'm fine.

[–] violetraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I am, but it's a day-by-day affair. I recently found out I have bipolar along with anxiety, but even so, I came out 4 years ago and my life has vastly improved.

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 2 points 10 months ago

Hey, it's better than it always being shit. I'm sorry about the bipolar though. However, hopefully, it's been found out. You can get help more suited for that.

The anxiety is.hinestly such a bitch. And I'm so glad coming out has helped. I wish you all the best.

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.de 12 points 10 months ago

Tell my young self that it isn't a phase and that he should start the therapy to become she immediately!

[–] MataVatnik@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Kill him since I already know it doesn't get much better

[–] Shard@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Is that suicide, murder or murder suicide?

[–] SturgiesYrFase@lemmy.ml 8 points 10 months ago
[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Depends if it rips apart universe by making a paradox. I am not sure is destruction of the universe is a criminal charge. But maybe Murder suicide then manslaughter for killing the universe?

[–] Resistentialism@feddit.uk 1 points 10 months ago

I mean, just from a quick duckduckgo, destruction of the universe isn't technically illegal.

Depending on how well you do it, there should be no charges because it'll all be gone.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

Imagine the disappointment if you then don't stop existing. You still did a good deed, nobody can take that away from you.

[–] aeternum@kbin.social 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life. This really hits home.

[–] Sureito@feddit.de 7 points 10 months ago

No, it would hit you

[–] Somewhereunknown7351@kbin.social 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I would do that with a chainsaw

[–] SuckMyWang@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

I’d push myself into a meat grinder

[–] Deiskos@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

I would tell my younger self to go to a psychiatrist and get some antidepressants about 2 years earlier than last time.

[–] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)
[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 3 points 10 months ago

I genuinely don't know if my younger self would have the presence of mind to take me seriously, but I would try to reach them and encourage them to be more empathetic toward things/people that they didn't understand. I was a bit of an asshole as a teenager, heck maybe even in my early 20s, and I wish I could go back with the care I have now.

[–] Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

I'd use a gun tbh. Gotta make sure.

[–] Gabu@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My expert advice to past me: "Stop trying to do so many different things and focus on getting good at one fucking thing at a time"
I still don't follow that.

[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago

Same. Even tho I'm trying, it's so boring doing one thing, so I'm trying everything...

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 months ago (2 children)

When you realize that's why your parents were like that

[–] RQG@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Because they time traveled back to slap themselves?

[–] Cysioland@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'd tell my younger self "you are gay" in the voice of that Ugandan TV host

[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 1 points 10 months ago

Why are you gay??!?

[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago

I would say, try to find some meaning to life, but it wouldn't be understood by 10yr pos

[–] Churbleyimyam@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

I think some people become parents for this reason. For better or worse...

[–] HubertManne@kbin.social 1 points 10 months ago

I would have a conversation. Mainly about stocks but also about the cubs.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee -5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Would try smash more girls and not be so picky.

Didn't know so many where going to let themselves go so fast after highschool/uni.

18-20 was the peak. Then no diet and exercise really caught up on a lot of girls relying on genetics and youth

[–] ADTJ@feddit.uk 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

So your takeaway from getting older is just misogyny...

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I think what he means to say is his diet and exercise.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

My diet is maybe slightly better. Less beer for sure. My exercise has gone way down. Was in the gym ever week and playing multiple types of sport through school and uni. Then post uni was in the gym 5 days a week.

But since then I lost weight. Just do a lot of walking and surfing now.

Still even on my reduced exercise regimen I don't know any women in my friendship group that do as much exercise as me.

[–] Wanderer@lemm.ee 0 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

No. Guys let themselves go also but I'm not interested in fucking them now or when I was 18 so I don't care about their looks.

The older you get the more your options go down.

But from my friendship group the guys have aged a lot better. They all most all stayed the same weight, some lost some muscle mass I know I did. But a lot of the girls got fatter.

It would be interesting to see the amount of exercise the average man does from 18-30 compared to women. I'd bet men do a lot more.

Are you honestly going to say you think women do as much exercise as men? Or that you don't know any girls from school in the "pretty group" that aged horrifically because they no longer have youth and never did any exercise.