Collect evidence. Audio record them imitating you, and knocking on the walls before you approach your landlord.
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I can't.. because if it's just a sound recording there's no way of yelling who is making the noise, and they do it randomly/unpredictably ENOUGH that I can barely ever catch it on video, and my phone can't just have video on all day.
Invest in a cheap audio recorder and leave it running when you notice them acting up. Or, if they do it in response to you making noise, intentionally make some (mundane, reasonable) noise and catch the response.
If the landlord wouldn't believe it when you tell them the tenants are acting obnoxiously, then there's no way to phrase that differently to make them take it seriously without giving them some evidence of it.
Well anyway, I messaged him 2 days ago, hey are you the landlord of apartment BLA BLA and he never responded.... Guess he doesn't gaf
Then start writing it down when it happens. Pics or it didn't happen doesn't apply. A journal of what happened, by who, and when will help.
It's fucking useless. They're just gonna use plausible deniability
Questions like these depend heavily on location, so this might not be relevant. Generally, evidence and paper trail are your friend. Some places have "peaceful use" laws to give/strengthen tenants rights. Look up local tenant laws to help.
If this is predictable behavior, record it starting. "I'm about to _____ which causes neighbors to retaliate by ____."
First attempt: just text and say the neighbors are being noisy pounding on the walls. Send the video too.
Sendod attempt: Send a certified letter to the address that collects rent checks and a copy if they specify another address for complaints in the lease. (I've had a lease that used a 3rd part for legal/conflict resolution.) Reference the first text/call.
I can’t… because if it’s just a sound recording there’s no way of yelling who is making the noise, and they do it randomly/unpredictably ENOUGH that I can barely ever catch it on video, and my phone can’t just have video on all day.
Then bait them into it. You say if you make any noise at all they're being a prick about it, make some noise.
They do different things. For example if I make zero noise all day then turn the tv on in the evening, they will then knock on my wall but like 30 secs to a min later. Or if I turn my tv on they'll watch their shit too, but it'll be too quiet to pick up so I'd have to turn my tv off, then they will turn theirs off. Etc etc etc
Are they actually imitating you, or are they just watching TV at normal TV-watching hours?
Are you trying to gaslight a random person you don't know