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Not in stem but the same thing happened to me. I used to be able to speak to a room and be heard. Now I need to raise my voice, sound a little whiney or bitchy or nobody hears me. Only my closest friend still asks me for advice or to share my knowledge. Used to happen all the time.
At least I pass. I got that going for me.
here's a related video from Angela Collier, if you want to read more about how women are treated in STEM
Is it me or is this a uniquely American experience?
I loved in quite a few countries and I've never seen this kind of absurd behavior. Granted, in a man, but I've never seen a man cut off a woman like that just because she's a woman, and I've never seen or heard comments even remotely about someone being "exotic". I've heard questions like "ohh, and where are you from?" in genuine curiosity, which is fine, I've never noticed overt racism like that.
Edit: to clarify, I am not talking about myself. Yeah I had idiots treat me like that and you just ignore them. I'm talking about never seeing this behavior in groups. I've lived in Mexico (loooasds of high testosterone machismo there) and even there I've never seen anyone that a women so disrespectful just because she's a woman. Same for skin color or sexual discrimination or whatever. I'm sure it's out there but in Europe, Mexico, Canada, I haven't seen it.
Come to think of it: I have seen some of it. A guy who thought that at in company martial arts classes he could grab women's breasts. I kicked him out immediately, I could not fire him unfortunately as that was not my call. That guy was of course a loud mouth American.
This just makes me think more and more that this may be a problem in all countries, just that it's a huge issue in the US.
I live in America and haven't noticed this as a man, I assume the misogynists have enough self awareness to keep it somewhat out of sight. The last time I noticed something inappropriate, the person quietly left the company a few weeks later. I have no idea if it was related to what I saw, but I wouldn't be surprised.
I 100% believe that it happens, it's just not visible to me.
Usually its not explicit, but patterns happen can be seen. Sometimes its not obvious unless you are specifically looking for it or the one directly receiving the treatment.
Trans experiences are just one case where those patterns become a lot more obvious. I remember someone telling a story about how often transitioning, someone's father and brother started giving football explanations to her as if she were new to the sport when she'd been just as involved for her entire life. Its not like they were intentionally trying to be malicious, but they clearly subconsciously decided "woman needs to be taught how ball game works" even when its someone who they previous thought of as a man and didn't treat like that.
Of course cis women point out that same kind of treatment. And often people just think they're imagining things.
That is horrible that anyone has to go through that.
Stem is still heavily dominated by Men, biology might be different as more woman are in bio than men are, and becoming more common in other stems. engineer and programming sitll gear towards men.
When I was a freshman before transition, I had a guy save my number and call me like 2 years after we had an intro engineering class (we spoke maybe once?) to ask me out on a date.
I had that with a contractor who had had my number for work purposes. He kept trying for 5 years.
I'm a butch lesbian, my mistake was being polite and chatty with him.
Male's priviledge huh, that's new
Ah well welcome to a man's world, It's going to be really fun for you😂
