What's a red flag in someone? : ask

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Red Flags (if I don't blatantly show disgust, I'll probably ghost you after observing this stuff):

Littering
Treating animals like objects
Treating staff in restaurants and shops etc. like trash
Being into manosphere shit or treating any podcaster / influencer / asshat with a microphone like they're a guru
Interest in conspiracy theories and/or 'free speech' aka actions without consequences
Crying about wokeness or women or queer people

Amber Flags (I'm a bit put off but I don't want to judge a book by its cover so I'll get to know you first):

Subscribing to a religion
Having no neck, a red face, short / no hair, tribal tattoos and walking like you've got an invisible water bottle under each arm
Being a constant 'positivity' person

Edit: I feel like that's a lot. Maybe I just hate everyone lol. Maybe I'm the red flag.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Conspiracy theories is a good one, it can be a sign of serious MH conditions. Some theories border on clinical paranoia

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah and sadly the conspiracy theory scene seems to be completely taken over by bad actors with right wing agendas. That prey on these people who actually need help, rather than to be fed stories about George Soros and the deep state and microchips in vaccines etc.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 3 months ago

Yep it's really scary.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 17 points 3 months ago (3 children)

They pour the milk before the cereal.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 10 points 3 months ago

I said red flag, not sign of a psychopath

[–] GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Damn. Am I excused if i have only so much milk left and do it to not end up with dry ass cornflakes?

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 3 months ago

Then and only then. But it should pain you to do it.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

No, add small amounts of water to stretch it like a normal person.

[–] RedAggroBest@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

I'd rather die

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

An adult that often doesn't accept when they're wrong, glosses over it or shifts the blame. Yes, it's part of growing up but past a certain age it's a terrible sign in someone.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 3 points 3 months ago

Such person is unfit for marriage or friendship

That's not a red flag that's a deal breaker.

[–] shittydwarf@sh.itjust.works 15 points 3 months ago (1 children)

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 17 points 3 months ago (1 children)

You mean the first things to ask a new acquaintance aren't the names of their childhood best friend, first pet, and maternal grandfather?

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 13 points 3 months ago

If you send me money I will explain why

[+] ZDL@ttrpg.network 12 points 3 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

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[–] Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Freeze peach what now

[–] threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

"Asian women are my fetish" (yes, I've had people—plural—use that with me)

Have you recounted this story elsewhere on Lemmy? I feel like I've heard it before...

[–] essell@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Mocks others, gets angry at jokes about them.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 months ago

Unnecessary aggression or assholery.

[–] TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 8 points 3 months ago

Being religious.

It’s kinda sad to put it that way, but I’ve found almost universally that devoutly religious people are borderline incapable of actual critical thought

[–] gjoel@programming.dev 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Fatal, depending on point and depth of penetration.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 3 months ago

Good one dad@

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Kisses their dog on the lips, but does not french the cat.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 3 months ago

I don't specifically have any. I just trust my feelings and am open and honest as possible.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 2 points 3 months ago

They don't listen to music at home.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

They accept a lack of evidence as natural in vetting someone for their supposed wrongfulness.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 1 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Their bathroom is destroyed. Usually a bad sign.

A green flag is seeing a stuffed animal or two in their bed.

[–] RedAggroBest@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

Hard disagree on that green flag. In my experience is not an indicator. Both the worst people and the love of my life have had stuffed animals on the bed.

[–] Sas@beehaw.org 2 points 3 months ago

Does it count if my stuffed animals are in the living room?

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