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Kinda depends on context. Because, if you've ever been around toddlers it means something different lol.

But I suspect you mean when the kids are adults.

It's typically going to be a blend of things. Wanting to see your kids find their groove. Part of the job of being a parent is getting your kids to adulthood in a state where they can survive, and hopefully thrive, on their own. That's because nobody lives forever, so they'll have to do life without you at some point.

You also want them to have stability and success. Not everyone has the same criteria for those things, but it's the hopeful part of parenting. Ideally, you set your kid up to have a better life than you.

The problem comes in when success and stability don't have the same criteria for the parents and the kids.

Settling down usually does mean that a person has found their groove, and they're also likely to be on a career path of some kind. They're also not likely to be partying too much or engaging in risky behaviors.

So, if the parents value that kind of life as "success", of course they'll wnat their kids on a path to that life before the parents age out of being able to help with that goal.

That does sometimes come with parents obsessing over it. Even more common is parents thinking that it has to be reached on a shorter timeline than the kid wants. So it can be a source of conflict, despite it starting out as something positive.

Of course, parents are humans. Humans are assholes. So you run into parents that believe their kids are extensions of themselves rather than independent humans. Those parents want their kids to reflect well on them, to extend their own sense of self. Thus, the child fulfilling the parent's ideals becomes vital to the parents' goals.

It's like anything else, really. Complicated.

Me? I tend to just want my kid to find their groove no matter what it looks like. I may or may not be able to assist them in life, depending on what that groove is, but I just want them to have as fulfilling a life as possible in the world we're stuck in. Anything else is icing on the cake

At essence it's not worrying about you because you have a stable life. And sometimes because they want grandkids.

Because he's 4 and has been rioting all day long

"Settlings Down" can mean different things.

It could mean:

• get married, have babies, keep a job for 10 years.
• stop getting drunk every night. Stop sleeping with random strangers. Keep a job long enough to pay me the $200 you owe me. Stop calling me at 3 AM to bail you out.

I think the first is often used as a polite way to say the second.

Everyone's saying so the parents don't have to worry, but there's also an evolutionary / natural selection aspect to it. Those that ensure their kids had kids are more likely to successfully ensure their genes are passed on than those that don't. Also, grandparents can help alleviate the burden of raising a child and allow parents to make even more kids

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/how-much-did-grandmothers-influence-human-evolution-180976665/

My parents don’t give a shit about anything i do. Just wanna know when am i gonna get married and have kids. Its sad

Never been a thing between me and my parents. I'm sure they want me to be in a happy relationship, but they've never pressured me. I assume those that do are influenced by social norms or some such peer pressure.

They probably want their kids to have someone to look after them when they are no longer around.

They'll not going to be around forever so they want to know you'll be able to look after yourself.

Imho, it' partly because then they know their kids have reached that stage in their lives where they are stable and have a home as well as are socially cared for and care for their significant other. Puts their minds at ease basically and they can age peacefully. Most parents basically want the best for their children and this is one symptom of it (now I'm prepared to get the replies of all the people with shitty parents.)

So you don't have to worry so much anymore.

Because to them settling down means having "made it". It's the last checkpoint before you stop being their baby boy/girl and become a full-fledged adult.

100 thousand years of biological drive and evolution? Add on culture and religious drive to reproduce.

One of the earliest ways religions attempted (and still do) become the dominant religion was simply out breeding the other ones.

Because it's at that point that we've "beat the game".

Simple: "We let you live--that almost didn't happen--you owe us grandchildren!"

At least that's what I tell my children.

A basic reason would be separation anxiety.

Probably they see their kids as an investment and want to see dividends in the form of A, grandchildren and/or B, financial support in their old age. In that regard it's inherently selfish. At least justifiably so, but still.

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