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Edit for context:

My view is transracial isn’t valid and this person is trying to dogwhistle. I’ve already blocked this person, and now they’re going after my friend saying my friend is transphobic because they disagreed with them about transracial being a thing (they're purposefully leaving the context out so my friend looks transphobic when what my friend really said was transgender is valid but transracial isn't)

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[–] UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As someone who isnt qualified to answer any trans related question: just let them be as long as they're not being a jerk

There are bigger fish to fry. There probably are people out there who fully think they're a different race. Who's to say their feelings are invalid while others feelings are.

[–] ryannathans@aussie.zone 3 points 1 day ago

Either people can express how they feel or they can't, and I'd rather people be able to express how they feel

[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

This person is not arguing in good faith and is just looking to make trouble. Engaging with people like that is as frustrating as it is futile.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Walk away.

People want to troll. Don't feed trolls.

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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah fuck it, it's 2025

[–] Etterra@discuss.online 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Look, understanding and relating to someone of a different race is one thing, but if you think that you somehow are that race then there's something wrong in your brain, one way or another. It's better than being like "I'm really a wolf" or similar nonsense, but only because at least you're not claiming it believing that you're a different species. Instead you're on the sliding scale of delusion/dog whistle and either way I'd rather just not be around you.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Makes sense on the surface, but people have reacted that exact same way to the whole transgender concept. "You can be in touch with your feminine side but your still male" or whatever.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I don't know anything about this issue but apparently the presumption here is that your view is the right view and you're just asking how to splain it to the person. My question is about the "I've already blocked this person" part. Instead could you possibly just limit your conversation to other subjects? It keeps looking like we're all getting more and more isolated from each other as we develop extreme aversions to anyone not having our exact POV about everything, so we shove them out of our world. It reminds me of survivalist bunker mentality.

[–] devolution@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (6 children)

I’d respond, “Rachel Dolezal was never shot by the police” and “Michael Jackson did not become an honorary white person just because he tried to be one.”

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[–] nondescripthandle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (11 children)

Race is an extremely unscientific way to catagorize human beings, and it's no wonder these people claim to be trans racial instead of trans ethnic. The more scientific, cultural, and hereditary definition of ethnicity means they'd have no real arguement to claim an ethnicity they weren't raised in and have no heritage from but the loose political definition of race gives them lots of wiggle room.

Tldr: tell them race isnt real and ethnicity is based on the culture you were raised in and the heritage of your ancestors. You can't force your ancestors to be a different ethnicity and you can transition a childhood upbringing, just an identity.

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[–] sthetic@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I'm no expert on either topic. But I believe humans basically start off as female in the womb, and either become male or don't. And there are many intersex conditions. The body responds to hormones typically associated with either sex. So gender is fluid in a biological sense. If someone transitions to male, female or nonbinary, they already kind of contained that potential.

However, race is a social construct, usually based on heritage as well as biological appearance. So it's hard to say how much biology is really involved. Does the human body contain the ability to be any race? Or to cultivate an appearance that prompts other humans to socially categorize you as one race or the other?

Maybe for people who are mixed race, there is a sort of spectrum available to them. They likely know how to present themselves in a way that gets them categorized as one race or the other.

But otherwise, not really. If you're White, and you say, "I identify as Black," the question might be: do you have Black heritage? If you don't, you can't really create it out of thin air. There wasn't a situation while you were in the womb where various hormones could have influenced you to appear more Black than you do. If your parents are both White, they were going to have a White baby, no matter what. Race is a social construct, but it's based on appearance and heritage. It's about belonging to a group, not about being an individual, the way gender is.

If you're assigned female at birth, and you say, "I identify as male," then cool! Your body already has the capability to become hormonally male. You can socially identify as male. Any human, of any race, has this potential. Any two parents could have a baby that is any sex or gender, depending on various factors.

[–] SaltSong@startrek.website 10 points 1 day ago (4 children)

So, as a white person, I cannot pass as black, so I can never expect people to treat me like I'm black?

Don't get me wrong, I think the idea is silly, but all the arguments I've seen in this thread are a word-swap away from being a bad argument against transgender people.

What's the essential difference?

[–] seralth@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Assuming race, As a white person you are going to struggle to get others to see you as black. Cause those are social constructs. YOU do not get to decide what others see you as when it comes to a social construct. Because the very point of a social construct is that it's the general social frame work used to see others as.

Ethnicity on the other hand, as a white skin tone person if you grew up in Africa in a tribe of indigenous people then you would be an indigenous person. Ethnicity only cares about the facts.

To mirror that to transgender.

Gender is a social construct, it's what others see you as and how you categorize into a given communities framework. This differs between communities. For example what defines a male gender in ancient Rome is different then ancient Scotland. Both having male genders that quite literally just do not exist in one or the other.

While sex is the physical only caring about the factual biological. The actual flesh and reproductive organs. You either have them, or you don't. Primary or secondary. You can alter them with modern medicine sure, but even after alteration. It still only matters what you have. Are you a male producer or female reproducer. Are you functional or not. Do you have both sets? That's basically it, sex just cares about the facts it's not socially constructed. You can't argue that someone with a penis does not have a penis.

Ethnicity tho, doesn't have a modern medicine equivalent. It just is what it is. You can't change facts, so your rather stuck with it. Unlike a penis.

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[–] Ledericas@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

how is this even close to be about transgender/phobia, were talking about white people trying to pretend to be another race, because they have have x amount of checks on the checklist. race doesnt = gender.

[–] amino@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

maybe stop comparing race and gender then. trans women only pass because we're women. you can't pass as Black because if you told someone you're Black they'd think you're a dipshit. you can't pass as something you're not.

[–] SaltSong@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

maybe stop comparing race and gender then.

Isn't the entire premise of the post that someone is seeing parallels here, and would like to understand why the similarities are not meaningful? As I said, I agree that transracial people are being silly, but I haven't seen an argument here that can't be used against transgender people.

trans women only pass because we’re women.

But there are plenty of transwomen who don't "pass" despite being women. But they should still be treated as women. Hell, there have been at least a few reports of ciswomen who couldn't pass as women, at least to sufficiently assholish observers. On that basis, I don't think we can use "passing" as a factor to determine people's identity.

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[–] Windex007@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that the only reason that being trans is valid is because of biological factors.

If we could construct a human that came into existence without being Female at some gestational point, you gonna tell them they can't be trans? If someone has a thyroid problem such that they their body CAN'T handle a sex hormone, you gonna tell them they can't be trans?

I feel like we're looking for a 9-D chess play when a 1-D play is sufficient: you say you're trans, you're trans. I'm not the fucking cops

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[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm confused. Wouldn't transracial just be "mixed"? Like one parent is white, one parent is black.

Mixed baby.

Never heard someone refer to it as "transracial".

[–] Tiffany1994@lemmy.cafe 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Transracial in this context is people identifying as different races, like Rachel Dolezal

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