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[–] Drinvictus@discuss.tchncs.de 53 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bots, scammers and OF girls

[–] Geek_King@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd like to add to your list:

Matches who don't talk, and sadness

[–] SuperIce@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You guys are getting matches?

[–] Grumpy@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 year ago

I think many math from people generally suggest guys get about 0 to 1 matches per day on median. Though, average is much much higher because top very small percentage of men get a crap ton, even more so than top girls. Whereas girls usually get in teens per day for median.

[–] Geek_King@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not so much, the rare ones I get generally don't respond when I message them.

[–] Grumpy@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's because they have too many people messaging them. They can't keep up. They end up being selective once again among the people who did match and invest their time into few while ghosting the rest.

[–] Geek_King@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I know, still sucks. The current numbers I heard for tinder was 25% women, 75% men. The amount of likes a day the average woman gets must be exhausting. Online dating is just awful now.

[–] threeduck@aussie.zone 18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My understanding is that tinder sorts you into categories of desirability so you're shown people in your own bracket - I assume so hot people don't associate the product with ugmos.

By saying tinder is filled with ugmos kinda tells on yourself, doesn't it?

[–] Naz@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That sounds like a relatively new feature.

The last time I tried Tinder (Tindr, straight people Grindr), it made me both give up on online dating and lose a bit of faith in humanity.

I've rarely been the victim of online harassment or trolling but holy hell - being an attractive woman on Tindr? Absolute win. Pretty much easy mode on any dating site in general.

Being an attractive man of the same caliber? Yeeehck. Holy shit, some people have absolutely miniscule egos and more time than proper sense. I won't share personal incidents or examples here because I'd rather just forget and leave it all in the past.

I went right back to traditional meat-space and in-the-flesh dating. Fuck this noise about online profiles and photography. Let your neighbors find out who you are on their own terms, don't shout it at them from the rooftops.

I ended up "settling" (not my opinion) on a girl with a golden soul that I met traditionally, through a friend of a friend. She's not the best looker, but if the algorithm works as you say, I'd never have even met her, which is a shame. We've been together for eight years now, and I still adore her.

So yeah, in summary, fuck Tindr.

<3

[–] scubbo@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

Straight people Grindr

I can assure that gay people also know what Tinder is.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Is this a new thing? I've always had a lot of variety, but haven't used it in ages.

[–] threeduck@aussie.zone 4 points 1 year ago

Na, early on in tinders existence they accidentally emailed people their desirability scores. It's kinda like an ELO score.

[–] potpie@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

More and more I feel it's best to think of software as existing in a quantum state of all possible feature/bug combinations. Between updates that can occur on any facet of the software's intricacies, algorithm quirks, human interventions, and clandestine beta testing on unsuspecting groups of users, who the fuck knows.

[–] ChrisLicht@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nice callback with that title!

[–] craftyindividual@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm just discovering the wonder for the first time.

[–] WaLLy3K@infosec.pub 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Turns out the answer to 30 to 50 feral hogs was to make love, not war.

[–] craftyindividual@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

It's a veritable hog tide.

[–] Falxix@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

You damned fool, that's Kitchener Leslie's girlfriend!