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Tips for gay relationships ? (Hope this is ok to post here) (hexbear.net)
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So im bisexual (technically pan but whatever) . Im in my 30s. Not a bottom

I have only been in one real relationship with a woman before but im considering to give grinder a try some time this year. (or any other app really)

I live in a city (europe) so I assume theres enough gay men around. Despite being attracted to "some" men I have spend little time thinking about it. I dont really spend time in queer spaces and im pretty much straight passing.

Is there anything I should know about dating other men or male presenting people ? Any tips or input are welcome since im a complete novice on the field doggirl-happy

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[–] vovchik_ilich@hexbear.net 8 points 4 days ago

I'm a boring cishet so take my words with a grain of salt, since they mostly come from conversations with some friends of mine:

Be aware that apps such as Grindr often host people who are very active in the app and very horny. This isn't something intrinsically wrong, but some people are just a bit unhinged and have no boundaries, and will be very overtly sexual from the start. If that's something you wanna engage in that's totally fine, just be ready for a likely wave of sexual attention if you open an account.

[–] Jabril@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago

get on prep and ask for up to date testing

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

You have my exact experience with sexuality and relationships. Like precisely the same to the point where it is strange. Accordingly, I have no advice lmao.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Well I wish you the best of luck wherever life takes you.

I guess I just realized in the last 2-3 years I would be totally fine dating "cute" guys and not just gals.

[–] la_tasalana_intissari_mata@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Gay men bottoms usually don't like being gunned in the street doggirl-thumbsup

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 2 points 4 days ago

The only guns I carry are my arms

[–] phpinjected@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 4 days ago