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Back in melbs.
I miss my bestie down the beach.
She came inside yesterday and hopped up on the kitchen bench (hasn't happened before) and just stood there when I was cleaning up. Honestly she's more domesticated than a cat or dog. Zero need to chase her out of the house. Found her something to eat, walked outside and she followed at walking pace with no stress. I swear they're evolving.
Birb friend! That's so sweet. Can't lie, I'd be worried about poop, but that's still very sweet.
worried about poop
lol yeah that was my first thought too.
Everytime I accidentally leave beach towels on the outside chairs there's always one on there. I suppose that part isn't very domesticated heh.
They are really smart creatures.
Ooh...I feel ... Oxygenated. That's cool. Score 1 CPAP Con full face masks are not fun but not as bad as I feared.
Good morning everyone π
I wish I could sit on my 3rd cat tower and glare menacingly at someone until they give me treats. 
The team lead at my woolies is stupidly hot, and I hate it because he's so damn hot. Dammit.
That chiseled jawline.
Those roast chooks don't fall from trees.
Unless chicken sale.
-unknown, 2025.
Been really depressed lately, not helped by the hormonal hurricane I'm in with this period π been trying to keep my head up, but I think I'm feeling the effect of not having a scheduled psych appt lined up.
My sleep cycle is a bit messed up, and I'm constantly drowsy. I feel like a big ball of whinge and woe-is-me.
On a positive note, I've applied for some jobs which I'm hopeful I'll get interviews for, and I've been playing cult of the lamb and am very happy with the DLC content! It's entirely worth it to me, and isn't just "here's some new clothes and follower forms, bitch" - there's more interactions with the bishops and much more endgame content.
Mickey has also been very cuddly.
So many hugs.
sometimes I feel modern life is we are running twice as fast to just stay in the same place, it's nearly impossible not to feel anxious and depressed
just keep doing the right things π
Had a big (for me) adventure today. Took the Minipeelers to Melbourne Central and had a wander around and look at things. Went into the Emporium part and had lunch at the Schnitz (kids choice) upstairs. I liked the upstairs part, it was cleaner and quieter than the other food courts in the main part.
At some point Elder asked if we could visit the museum and I thought, ok, why not? So we went there and Miniest let it drop that Elder was really keen to see the Lego Star Wars exhibition, so we saw that. It's pretty cool, lots of displays and a couple of good interactive displays. One of them you make your own fighter space ship thing and put it in a machine which scans it and then projects it flying through space on a big screen. Another one, you make your own lightsaber, attach a receiver to it and stand in front of a screen which shows it glowing, and you can download the picture. There was also a part where you do a bit of Lego and it goes towards a big mural. Warning to anyone who takes kids: you have to leave via a pop-up star wars retail space (I saw a few tantrums!). The theme cafe was ok (could've done better with star wars themed food ideas) but I was hanging for a coffee by that point and any port in a storm I reckon!
Then we walked back to Melb Central and got Cinnabon to take home. Wish I could remember the name of the scroll place that used to be at Melbourne Central about 20+ years ago, it was the same kind of thing but heaps more types of scrolls and was really popular. Does anyone here remember?
Fire alarm. FFS.
Iβm going back to bed π
Miss Meow's litter refresh is complete
There are also a few leopard decals around the room to complete the look
I got put in Reddit jail hehe
Obviously you are doing something terrible.
I've just made someone delete their entire Reddit account, got someone else to delete a post and leave a Facebook group, and gotten into some pointless arguments with people over what day chores are done and been downvoted for saying sourdough is sour. It's wild out there.
It took me all day of getting distracted and bullshit avoidance strategies, but I've finally booked the campervan. That's the biggest hurdle over. I splurged an extra $300 for a newer model that has cruise control even though I don't like the layout as much and it's not as spacious. My right knee isn't the greatest these days so I am not putting it through 1000s of kms solo.
I'm just going to book campsites tomorrow because my brain is fried. I will definitely feel a lot more excited about this once all the bookings are over!
Thank you Before Holiday Seagoon for making the house clean and having a really well set up office/desk to come back to
Cat are fighting over who gets cuddles.
Husband is happy to have chef home again, except we are having defrosted dinner tonight cos I'm tired.
I have to reset my watch, argh, two clocks on it and I want to do the chime too.
Airport was interesting, for the first time ever I had to tick boxes yes for border control. Yes I have been on a farm, yes I have wood ( shush ) , yes I have shells. After an interview they sent me through saying I was fine and could keep all my stuff. π They did say if I didn't declare I would have been fined!! ( to be positive, I saw the Icarus statue . πͺ½βοΈ )
I did two lasting self improvement things, I stopped playing bubbletown and I learnt about self instruction, where I tell myself out loud to do things, it works!
Never ate so much dairy in a long time. My clothes still fit but it's time to diet again.
Grocery shopping has been ordered. Clothes in the washing machine. Unpacking has started. ( so many shells to wash , they π½ )
Hey fellow Lemmylings(?). Last week I did Run Melbourne and managed to cut open my foot whilst running (not sure how), limiting my ability to walk. Thing is, I was going to propose to my partner on Saturday and was going to do it during a hike to one of our favourite places.
Given I can't walk, that's not all that doable anymore. Annoyingly I've booked various other things around the engagement.
Any ideas for proposals that wouldn't require significant walking? We don't have our own transport, but are willing to Uber if need be. Thanks everyone!
EDIT: We're in the Inner North on the Mernda/Hurstbridge train lines.
Congrats mate! You might wanna narrow it down for us. North, West, East, South East, South West etc.
That's an excellent point, thanks mate! Edited the above, but we're in the inner north, Mernda/Hurstbridge train lines.
A nice picnic at Edwardes Lake.
That's actually perfect, mate! We've never been, but it's definitely the right vibes for what I initially planned to do! Thank you so much for your help!
travel non drama, best thing I did was buy extra baggage before the flight, it cost hardly anything, stress instantly gone
so the thought occurred, why the fuck didn't I do this all those other times I travelled or the fam travelled
Because I wasn't the one doing the booking and organising. We're not poor, we could easily pay, so why the drama and anxiety of worrying about being a few kilos over? Because it was all about the drama. π€¨
Im so sorry. I feel this too. I was always barked at sarcastically whenever I wanted anything for myself that would be nicer or make things easier, told βthats stupidβ or βitβs a wasteβ. Yet, this didnβt apply to my mother, she always had the nice things she wanted. If you tell this kind of story to a normal person, they think youβre being dramatic. But unless youβve lived it, as a child you are constantly ground down every day, until you have no self worth, it wonβt make sense.
So Iβm grateful you share your stories, because it makes the world make sense. Makes me feel less alone in my experiences. And hooray for extra luggage, and finding little wins to escape the consequences of the drama.
Happy World Emoji Day πβ€οΈ
I'm win7 on this laptop still and all I see are squares or the occasional cat :(
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Today at my neighbourhood beach I found a piece of coral, a shark tooth and saw a rainbow over the bay.
Everyone wants their shit done asap. Get utterly fucked. I barely have enough in my team to do our own stuff.
Grrr.
more bff stuff
I've been conversing with someone on there for about a week and I don't think this person is it. He is autistic so ends up taking things literally, and I do too sometimes, but everything I write, even with added laughing emojis, he just doesn't get?
I told him how the ladies at work talk about each other behind their backs and I find it funny how seriously they take it, and he's just like, "Be careful, you can't trust anyone these days."
Or I talk about catching up with friends or going overseas at some point in my life when I have a stable income, and he says, "It's tough to catch up with friends because everyone has their own lives," or "Doing stuff alone is great but it can get lonely," or "Travelling sounds cool but it's really expensive."
Always a negative. Yes these things are true. Life is challenging. I know not everyone can travel, or find time to have a social life or enjoys doing stuff alone. Sometimes when I'm alone, I feel lonely too. But the constant negativity is so draining. Now I really know what my family experiences with me. It just screams that he has some sort of learned helplessness going on, and as someone who has gone through enough wake-up calls to move past that, I just don't know if I can deal with that.
The kicker is when he asked me how organising a meetup is going and I told him a few people have ghosted. He starts telling me how he got ghosted on dating apps and how he got picked on in school which ruined him to a degree. Mate, you graduated from school like seven years ago. You need some serious therapy. I know the company he works for has a prolific EAP and so gave him a little nudge towards that. The company clearly isn't doing enough to put it out there.
Part of me wants to invite this person to a group hang so he is included in something. It's always nice to feel included and valued by other people. But I don't know what it is about young men on these kinds of apps having to offload their negative experiences to whoever will hear it. I've noticed a pattern where guys who have mates don't talk to their mates about their feelings, and confide in the women in their lives about emotional stuff instead. I wish that would change. But society.
How about billboards encouraging people to talk to their mates? We need to normalise this shit.
Other conversations on the app have been a lot more light-hearted and to do with shared interests, so that's looking a bit more promising.
"Behind every great man is an even greater woman".
It's no lie that dudes dump their shit on women more than they should.
is it dumping or is it team work ?
Is women complaining about men showing their emotional side and showing their vulnerabilities part of the problem
do women want strong men, and let's define what strong means
do women get to define who men should be
Everything I just wrote is about intimate relationships, about a partnership
if people are just casual friends then it's a boundary issue
is it dumping or is it team work ?
That's a good question and I suppose the answer would vary.
Imo in an ideal world there should be equal give and take (in terms of dumping shit and being receptive as in listening to it) but I'm uncertain as to whether that world exists.
This guy sounds like a drag.
Woof, that sounds like a lot. I'm glad you're still chatting to him and have nudged him towards an EAP, but do you think it would be beneficial to point out his constant negative viewpoint? It's nice that you want to possibly include him, but it sounds like it'd be fairly risky from a draining your energy view.
But haaaard agree that mates need to talk to mates. I noticed when boyo would catch up with his mates it's always incredibly superficial chatter, he's got no idea how his mates are doing in life. I asked about it and he said "that's just how they've always been. They'll talk if they want to." But will they?!
I survived work and returned my library books. I can chill for the evening
Clocking out for tonight to be happy with myself since I canβt even share it.
Todayβsβ¦challenging
