askchapo

there's more than one kind of that guy. for example, i'm broke, mildly disabled, and don't like churches or bars.

not hating women is below the bare minimum and gets me exactly as many cookies as I deserve for such a great exertion.

What would you say the reason is for those guys who cant get a date for the life of them?

You're touching upon an area that leftists (especially the vast majority of hexbears) don't wanna touch with a 12 foot pole: male loneliness.

There are some thoughtful answers here, but most of them are your standard "be yourself and put yourself out there (there's always fish in the sea)" crap that most people tell you.

The truth is that if you want dates/hookups/relationships whatever you need to improve your own looks and improve your game. That doesn't guarantee anything, but you gotta do it. This means actually making your intent known, instead of "trying to be friends" first and then sneakily asking a girl out (btw she can smell this from a mile away, it's better to be bold than sneaky). It means knowing that unless you're super handsome or "hot" many, many women WILL reject you based on looks alone (as a result of the influence of dating apps) and dealing with it. It means developing a life that women want to be a part of. It's more than just "having interesting hobbies" because as others in this thread have said, having hobbies alone doesn't cut it. It's going to be slightly different for everyone but most people can do it. It might also mean finding places where there aren't so many men swarming around a few women (like many nightclubs these days). Interest or hobby groups may also be a good place. If you want similar politics, find a local org or something. Maybe some travel to try out different places, who knows. But there is plenty of advice out there that is concrete and actionable. Who knows what your individual path will be, but I'll post a fantastic video from a leftist perspective on this subject below.

I've already posted about this but I'll post it again, @ComradeLuz, please watch this vid: https://youtu.be/be_Ms3nVG10?si=-C2UfpC1TUPRqI33. It's a video on this topic from a leftist perspective that actually gives concrete advice along with a solid analysis. I posted it here before (https://hexbear.net/post/613122) but it got less than 15 comments (many were mine so in actuality very few comments).

It's very sad because if the left does nothing about it other than useless platitudes of "putting yourself out there" and "be yourself" these men WILL find their way into right-wing spaces and then it might be too late. The worst thing you want is a bunch of sexually frustrated young males not on your side. But oh well, I figure this issue will continue to be ignored...

TL;DR: Watch the next five minutes or so from this timestamp (or better yet, the whole video, IT REALLY IS THAT GOOD): https://youtu.be/be_Ms3nVG10?si=YuPWXVUSQfGspdiF (@15:58)

dating is still oriented towards getting a woman to like you over anything else, some guys just don't have a personality and body that sells well. That's literally it, everything else on this thread is waffling.

I'm a woman who lives in a college town famous for its high quality Electrical Engineering, Mechanical Engineering and Computer Science degrees. So the woman to man ratio in the 20-30 age group is like 1:4 at best.

So a lot of guys I'm friends with just don't get laid cause the math doesn't work out 🤷

Some of them tho... should probably do a bit of soul-searching first. Being dismissive about "female interests" like makeup and the gym while also being weirdly fetishistic about "gamer grill interests" like cosplay and video games just makes talking to them really hard. Like, they'll always look at everything you say through a lens of "how does that benefit ME?" - Talking to them is a literal minefield.

Another factor is also that they'll exclusively hang out in male spaces and just expect women to show up and talk to them somehow??? Like yeah, don't sign up to ballet just to creep on women, but expanding your horizon beyond Friday Night Magic won't kill you. I've heard Lorcana is great, and there are plenty of women playing it at my local game store.. just casually talking to them during a game would be a normal human interaction

nobody owes you attention. be better. do more interesting things with your life. whatever you're doing isn't working so do something else.

and above all, the most important piece of advice: if your first instinct upon rejection or things not working out how you had in your head is to lash out and start yelling or saying abusive things then you aren't fit to be in human society yet. kill that instinct by whatever means necessary. chill the fuck out.