2d4_bears

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[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 7 months ago

I sincerely cannot imagine what was going through their minds. In addition to the ableism there’s an incredible lack of self awareness on display here.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

Some further research suggests that you’re right. They’re not native to the area but I guess were introduced a long time ago. Thanks!

 

Can anyone help me identify these cluster flowers that started growing in my garden? My partner and I are not certain what they are or how they got here, but they’re quite pretty. We are in climate zone 10 according to the 2023 plant hardiness zone map.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

I had exactly the same experience.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

Understandable. I haven’t made chana masala in a while but you’ve inspired a hankering that I must satisfy soon.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Ah, one of my favorite meals! Good choice. Now for the real question: how spicy?

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I also really liked Vermont while I lived there, and everything that you mentioned are great features. That said, the state (and much of New England) is overwhelmingly white. I am white-passing, but my spouse is not, and they felt consistently othered while we lived there. Not in an aggressive or hateful way, but in a “strangers see me as a novelty” way that you tend to get in homogenous communities. Burlington is probably a bit more diverse than the relative middle of nowhere where we lived, so your mileage may vary.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

You just unlocked a childhood memory of mine. At maybe 6 or 7 I found it very strange how closely my church’s dogma rhymed with various”pagan” mythologies that I’d read about. I recall asking my mom about it, in some childish way, and being taken aback at how unsatisfying her “paper over the cracks” response was. Later on, I also had a lot of “I’m supposed to feel something but don’t” moments. This was a source of considerable distress until I managed to deprogram myself.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago

Yeah it’s wild how many ways humans can express “don’t question the dogma,” both explicitly and implicitly with deflection, body language, etc. I’m a child of clergy, so I very much grew up “in” a church. Consequently, I don’t even have any specific memories of asking questions and being told not to doubt or what have you. I’d never not been immersed in the fundamentalist milieu, so I subconsciously learned to police my own thoughts and actions without realizing it. It’s taken years to recontextualize some of my childhood behavior. Most of it is sad stuff, like realizing “oh I ghosted that friend because I was trying to avoid becoming aware of the homosexual crush I was developing”. Anyway, I guess my point is that we can be good at preventing ourselves from questioning dogma, too. Until the shelf collapses.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I’m not an ex-Mormon specifically, but this shelf analogy resonates with my experience as someone who was raised in an evangelical Protestant church. Eventually you stack up too many inconsistencies and the cognitive dissonance is too much.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 7 months ago

Dragonfruit is delicious, but this depends heavily on where you get it. Most non-tropical markets get imported dragonfruit that was picked too early and shipped/stored over long periods, resulting a relatively bland taste and drier texture. Ripe, fresh dragonfruit is lovely. It’s in my top 5 fruits personally.

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Why would you hurt me like this?

[–] 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 8 months ago (1 children)

This but unironically.

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