AstroStelar

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[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)
[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

Sounded familiar, so I checked and it's from 4 years ago.

Faced with these serious allegations, Cuomo at first attempted a bizarre defence. “I’m not perverted, I’m just Italian,” is how Fox News characterised it, which was amusingly accurate. Cuomo suggested that the fact that some women had perceived sexual abuse might be attributed to differing “generational or cultural perspectives”. In a video statement, he proceeded to show lots of photographs of him kissing people in public – a gesture, he said, that is intended to show “warmth”. He further admitted that he sometimes calls people “sweetheart”, as if that were his greatest fault.

I also found this in the search results:

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 10 points 2 weeks ago

Someone here defined it as knowing when to follow authority, which I found a good one.

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Professor Yu says China's expansive internet infrastructure plays a key role in driving the trend. "Internet connection is everywhere. The internet connectivity in the small villages is no different to Beijing." And this had allowed young people to both share their lives and earn an income using digital media, Professor Yu says.

"The old kind of rural lives are limited to farming or herding, but digital media has created new opportunities," Mr Chen says. "For example, what I'm doing helped the farmers to sell their products and brought more attention to the village." "Our town has become quite commercialised now," Ms Wang adds. "There is a mixture of local and outsiders' shops. A mixture of old and new things."

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 32 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Some of the opinion pieces in the sidebar while I was reading this:

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 35 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Earlier this month, another disgruntled Brit slammed a tourist hotspot in Greece for serving "no English food" - describing it as "the [worst] holiday I've ever been on".

Susan Edwards, 69, from Westerhope, in Newcastle, said the all-inclusive TUI getaway to Corfu offered guests "no hot bacon or sausage", but a buffet of salads, fish and rice, which she was "sick to death of looking at" by the end of her trip.

agony-shivering

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 22 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I found the article, but be warned, it's stuffed with bloat in between paragraphs: https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/2065841/british-tourist-benidorm-holiday-ruined-spanish-people

Read the article here

A British pensioner was left in tears after her Benidorm holiday because there were "too many Spaniards" at her resort. The coastal city is well-known as a mecca for Brits abroad, but Freda Jackson's expectations of being surrounded by fellow tourists during her trip may have pushed the stereotype to its limit.

The pensioner from Blackburn in Lancashire, who is in her eighties, raged over the number of locals she saw during her summer break in 2018, insisting that Spaniards should have "gone somewhere else for their holidays". While protests against an influx of foreign tourists has defined discourse across European travel hotspots in recent years, Ms Jackson's complaints tackled an entirely different issue. "The hotel was full of Spanish holidaymakers and they really got on our nerves because they were just so rude," the grandmother-of-six said.

"The entertainment in the hotel was all focused [on] and catered for the Spanish," she added. "[And] one evening, a Spanish guy nearly knocked me flying and he just walked off without even apologising."

The Brit said she and a friend had paid for the trip using their pensions, but claimed they were given a hotel room on a slope despite requesting flat-ground access, and were allegedly forced to travel 1,500 miles from Manchester Airport to Alicante after they weren't told their flight dates had been changed.

"I have never complained about a holiday before - but this one was a disaster from start to finish," Ms Jackson said. "My friend and I paid for it from our pensions and it was a struggle trying to fund it over 12 months. The holiday was totally ruined. I cried after."

A spokesperson for Thomas Cook said the pensioner wasn't told about the change to her flights until six days before departure due to a "system error".

"We are very sorry for the inconvenience this caused and are investigating to make sure it doesn't happen again," they added. "We ... offered Ms Jackson and her travel companion a gesture of goodwill to try and put things right, which we hope she will accept."

Earlier this month, another disgruntled Brit slammed a tourist hotspot in Greece for serving "no English food" - describing it as "the world holiday I've ever been on".

Susan Edwards, 69, from Westerhope, in Newcastle, said the all-inclusive TUI getaway to Corfu offered guests "no hot bacon or sausage", but a buffet of salads, fish and rice, which she was "sick to death of looking at" by the end of her trip.

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

Trotsky is missing his bunny tail (the set of radial lines)

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 2 points 3 weeks ago

On that note, China also recently made headlines with a 'quantum-proof' encryption system: https://hexbear.net/post/5176306

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

So the claim being made here is accurate, but fair warning: this website is full of anti-vax stuff and various other far-right conspiracy theories. I was suspecting that when I noticed half the article is about parliamentary questions by a politician from 'Forum voor Democratie', a far-right party that fell down a rabbit hole of conspiracy theories and esoteric fascism. Unfortunately, they are also the only party in parliament that is explicitly anti-NATO, but that's because they like Russia for protecting "boreal culture" against le wokisme.

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 76 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

A few years ago, I learned that the official typeface used by the Ukrainian Ministry of Foreign Affairs is called "Bandera".

[–] AstroStelar@hexbear.net 23 points 4 weeks ago

Haven't haka (is that the plural term?) been performed in parliament before without issue?

 

Tangent: when looking up Mamoru Oshii I found an interview where he compared the work culture at Studio Ghibli to a communist dictatorship ("communism is when capitalism"), because people of the 1960s "Anpo generation" (like Miyazaki) have "no morals" when they believe their cause is just...

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by AstroStelar@hexbear.net to c/memes@hexbear.net
 

(in hindsight, c/slop would have been a better place to post it)

 

I'm tall, slim and at a beginner-to-intermediate level. My plan is to work out 3 days per week. My main aims are functional strength and calisthenics, supplemented by endurance and flexibility.

So I've been going to the gym since last August and up till now I've looked at individual bits and pieces of information, prepared a general sense of what to do and then kinda improvised when there.

My workout sessions are 2 hours yet I feel like I'm still missing things, maybe I'm just slow? I also 20 minutes on warm-up stretches to cover everything relevant for the day. I can't judge if that's too much and if so how to reduce it in both cases.

 

First a call-out of fatphobia (https://hexbear.net/post/4189552) that ended up proving its point, then the stuff about "he/hims" (https://hexbear.net/post/4187781) ". Apparently a mod got banned!?

I am not very active and I never look at the megathreads, the number of comments in them scare me away from them. Is that where it's happening? I feel confused about what this community is like now.

I, uh, don't really know what my point is. Maybe someone can explain what the state of the site is? Especially on the he/hims thing. Maybe that's the main point of this post.

I feel sad for people that got hurt by this.

 

I’ve sat with these thoughts for a long time and have wanted to write them down for a while, so I did. I want to share it here in case people can provide new insights for me or in general help me make sense of it. (each section is about 350 words long)

===MASCULINITY AND ME: IT'S COMPLICATED===The only things I don’t like about my testosterone levels are acne, body hair and early signs of male-pattern baldness. I like many “typical autistic boy things” like space, science or video games. But I don’t care about being perceived as “manly”, I never worried about not being “manly” enough, I still sleep with plushies in bed, my aesthetic leans younger, I am very emotionally vulnerable (sidenote: due to autism causing lopsided brain development, my intellectual development is higher than average but emotionally I feel like I’m only now undergoing puberty (I’m 21)) and have been at times nervous about interacting with guys at my age, because of personality differences and my unease with the most common forms of masculinity that often are toxic.

I have tried multiple ways to explain what I am, to others and to myself:

  • “Call me a boy or a guy, but “man” is too loaded with bad connotations for me.”
  • “I’m male with asterisks.” or: “I’m male with agender characteristics.”
  • “In 5 years there’s a 50% chance I’m still male, perhaps demi-male, 50% chance something else like agender, genderfluid or trans.”
  • “I don’t care whether a personality trait is masculine or feminine, I pick ones that make me happy or a better person. Nonetheless I do lean into the masculine side.” (feeling unease over describing myself as masculine)

But I either feel unsatisfied by these short answers because they leave things out, or I start wondering about identifying about something else, yet every time I come to the conclusion that I’m fine with my current identity. Transitioning and going by she/her or they/them feels like too much for me, so I feel stuck in a kind of gender limbo where I’m not a “man” in the mainstream sense, but also not feminine/non-binary enough to be something else. I also don’t really know what masculinity even means anymore: is “courage” or “strength” really a man-only thing?

===FITNESS: EXCITING AND UNCERTAIN===For all my life I’ve been slim and pretty meek and have admired those that have more strength, not just physically but also mentally. I also need that strength to fight or flee my way out of trouble, shall the need arise. So about 4 months ago I started regularly going to a local gym, usually twice per week. So far I’ve mainly done strength training of various kinds, but I plan to incorporate cardio for endurance and up it to 3 times per week once I get my nutritional intake higher. I want a moderate amount of muscle mass while still retaining a slim profile: I’m 1.86m and want to go from 62-64kg to 70kg. I like the idea of being more muscular but also want to avoid an overly masculine appearance. I don’t just want to focus on brute strength, I want it to be functional and flexible and focus on general health too. It has already made me feel better about myself and I love the energy and self-confidence it gives me on the days I go. But I’m scared of researching things online, in part because I want to avoid influencer grifters but also because of how male fitness culture has become so toxic. A lot of info is also directed at getting as big as possible and I feel a kind of guilt that stuff like yoga is considered “feminine”. On the other end, I find it disappointing that things like physical strength and the ability to defend themselves are locked away behind “masculinity”. (Sidenote: I’m aroace but do feel visual and sensual attraction, the latter more specifically meaning things like hugging and caressing. Relationship-wise I just want to have friends and a community. I would say that I’m bi but with a preference for women. I can like many body types, but the most appealing traits for me are clean-shaven, physically fit in some way and an upbeat, friendly or playful personality.)

===MEGA MAN STAR FORCE, BACKGROUND===This little forgotten series in the Mega Man franchise means a lot to me, and its main character Geo Stelar has unironically become something of a role model for me. The series consists of three games, but for my intents and purposes I’ll focus on the first, most story-driven game. Geo starts the game as a depressed 10-year-old whose loss of his father has made him afraid of emotional pain and loss. This pain and anxiety makes him afraid of any social interactions or getting involved in things. But beneath the fear he’s smart, empathic and carrying that “strong sense of justice” that most Mega Man protagonists do. Over the course of his adventures Geo starts showing courage as an involuntary-later-accepting hero, but also as a human by opening up and willing to make friends (bosses are villains possessing likewise lonely, emotionally vulnerable people that Geo has met and has to talk out of the possession after fighting, and the game has a very strong “Power of Friendship” message), but it’s not a smooth journey and he falls back to square one on multiple occasions. Over the course of the series he becomes happier, braver and he comes to full bloom as a person. I started playing the first game at the lowest point in my life, halfway in my first year at university. Progress with my study ground to a halt as procrastination and motivation got worse and worse. I felt time was slipping away from me as I didn’t do the things in life I want to do and felt shackled by mental obstacles, especially fear. I was lonely and poorly understood by my parents too. This game, it felt, understood me better than anyone: Geo had the same struggles as me (though I didn’t lose a parent), his personality felt close to mine and the kind of person he became was exactly what I wanted for myself. The game’s space and tech aesthetics triggered my special interests, and the music has made me cry on many occasions because of how much it synchronized with me.

===MEGA MAN STAR FORCE AND MASCULINITY===A part of me finds it funny that my male role model is a 10-year-old boy from a video game, but I feel like it’s no coincidence. Geo’s at the cusp of puberty, just before patriarchy really starts ramping up the pressure to conform. While Geo can certainly be tough and become a literal “Mega Man” when necessary, in day-to-day life he eventually turns out to be cute, kind, playful, calm but also funny or cool at times. He’s also emotionally vulnerable in a very personal way for me, his character growth is inspiring for that reason. And any romantic plotlines that often turn me off as an aroace person don’t go further than puppy love, which I can interpret in a platonic way for myself. With the series aimed at a younger audience, the world is bright and everyone wears colorful or at least expressive clothes. The “Power of Friendship” message is cliché and gets delivered quite ham-fistedly, but it was something I needed to hear and appreciate as someone who frequently doesn’t have the capacity to keep on fighting, a common thing to do in shōnen media that keeps triggering my insecurities. Star Force applies it too sometimes, but with my strong connection to Geo and the game’s message it felt more meaningful.

This post is meant in part just to create clarity in my head by writing things down on (digital) paper. But I also am curious if there are people that have similar feelings to mine. For those that just want to talk about my messy relationship with masculinity, reading the first section is sufficient, while the rest adds context for what I am like or is seed for discussion. I finally want to pre-emptively say that I’ve read the book club threads for “The Will To Change” and want to read the book for myself as well, before anyone raises it to me in response. Sorry if it's a bit unusual, but thank you if you're willing to read my silly ramblings.

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Alliance_of_Russian_Solidarists

They worked with Vlasov's collaborationist army during World War 2, go figure.

 

I was diagnosed at a young age and this isn't new, but I have become more and more frustrated with it: getting to do something often happens slow. In the gym my exercises are often interrupted by many minutes of getting stuck in my head, being distracted.

People talk about how it's okay to take breaks but I sometimes lose HOURS at home because I just don't do anything and it isn't resting either because my head keeps churning without a goal. I call it a limbo between activity and resting. Sometimes my phone or another means of distraction is to blame, but other times it's just anxiety to do something because "is this the best use of my time?" (in general I often have time anxiety)

It drives me crazy because I will have a plan of things to do that's totally reasonable and achievable, but then I only achieve a small part of it because I keep wasting so much time, I then procrastinate on the rest. This mainly affects activities/plans I've set myself, those set by others let me just obey and not have to overthink as much.

Does anyone else relate and can they share means of dealing with it?

 

The parents never hit their child (back), by the way, only she may hit them if she asks, and is allowed to.

Two excerpts that explain the underlying philosophy:

In the world, Nic points out, women are largely on the receiving end of violence, and in his family that was contrasted with his mom, who would teach the kids judo and jujitsu techniques. His aunt was a national judo champion, and the best judoka in the family. People would come to spar with the family, and they would be paired with his aunt, who is 5-foot-4 on a good day. He grew up seeing pictures of her throwing 200-pound men, their heels flying in the air. Then he would see other people’s families, in which violence was just framed as a negative, end of story.

Margo wants some of Nic’s female relatives’ confidence for our daughter—whether or not she wants to be a martial artist, Margo wants her to be physically prepared for life. Margo has felt so unprepared physically for so many scenarios she’s found herself in, starting with being a young woman in New York City, getting grabbed and groped and followed home and jerked off to on the subway. She wonders how she could have responded differently to all those incidents if she’d had a practice of physical mastery that wasn’t dependent on size or brute strength.

After a lifetime of seeing those dynamics, Nic wants the same thing for his children that he was given: the power to protect themselves and the people around them, and the knowledge to be able to know what does and doesn’t warrant a physical reaction. “I give them a space in the home to practice learning those parts of themselves,” he says, “so if they are in a situation, they are not in that space for the first time.”

“I just want to cultivate children who can protect themselves.”

I like that it involved a girl in this case, but it could also allow boys to still fight eachother as a form of consensual play, and accepting "no" for an answer. Just saying "all violence is bad" can lead to problems down the line when they can no longer control themselves and have zero experience.

 

"[A Hexbear user] who sees the establishment of a National-Socialist state as a desirable step towards a communist state" wut

 

On my phone especially, when I play a audio or video file, it will sometimes cut the audio for the first second or so. I have found online that it's a persistent issue with no fix and the developers haven't done anything about it. Do others have this issue and are there alternative media players I can use that don't have issues?

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